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*onely planet
writes:You guys have been helpful in the past...please help again.Right, I have moved on in my life. Relocated, new job, starting again. Recently a friend of mine called me and invited me to a dinner party. It was local to where I am now living and he said I would know a few of the people there as they were from my university but I hadn't seen them for years. I ended up meeting this guy whose dinner party it was (who I actually already knew from uni but we were never friends as such, I just knew who he was). We ended up getting on really well and I ended up staying over, as did everyone else at the party.Anyway, he asked for my number and we arranged to have dinner tthe following week, which we did. It went really well. The following weekend he invited me over for the weekend and we had the most amazing time. Really good fun. It was really easy to talk to him and he seemed very keen. Talking about what he wanted out of life, in a relationship. Both of us had relatively recently come out of relationships. And it just seemed like fate. He invited me to an invitation only party which is some weeks away.We were seeing each other on a weekly basis - we've had about seven dates - he works away during the week, and back on weekends. He was calling most days or texting and now very little.I saw him on Sunday for the night, again lovely time had with him. Cosy night in, food, dvd etc. He called Monday night and I called him yesterday morning. But nothing since. So it had gone for contact being daily, he would call on his way to work or on his way home, and we would set up a date to meet up. I just don't know whether I have done something, but it just feels different. And I am stressing about it. I really like him. And I am surprised that I like him. I could have scared him off I suppose. Or he doesn't want a relationship. Or he is busy. Any suggestions as to a) reasons as to what might be going on, or b) how I can just chill out?! I hate feeling like this. Thanks in advance.
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reader, lonely planet +, writes (8 October 2010):
lonely planet is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe called me a couple of times and I have seen him. However, he took me out for dinner, told me he really liked me and could easily go out with me. Gave me a list as long as my arm about all the positive points. But he says he is enjoying being single (so clearly sleeping with others), is also party to a bet that he wouldn't get into a relationship within 6 months, but would still like to see me. He said he would rather be honest, and that was it gives me the option to deal with things as I see fit. So I was right, he doesn't want a relationship. Very disappointed as I really liked him and I find it very hard to meet men who I find attractive. Back on the shelf for me then!
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (30 September 2010):
 It's too soon to tell. If he doesn't contact you at all for over a week, he probably lost interest. He could be legitimately busy and unable to call, but a text takes minimal effort. For that reason, I think it would be best to leave it. Don't stress about anything you may have said or did, these things happen.
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