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writes:i recently accused my boyfriend of cheating on me when i later found out he wasnt now he isnt talkin to me i cant live without him how do i get him back? please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2008): I wish you the best of luck...I did the same thing recently and I'm struggling with making it up to my boyfriend. It hurts me so much to see the pain I have caused him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): There is a very effective method to writing sincere apology's, it's called the three A's of apology. It goes something like this :
A - acknowledge
A - apologize
A - assure
First acknowledge thoroughly how and why you were wrong. Try to see it from their point of view......Hi Honey, I am writing this note to you because I understand that what I did was so terribly wrong and must have cut you to the core.
I'm being very simple so please don't use these words, yours need to be much better than this.
Second apologize.......Sweetheart, I am so sorry and I wish to apologize from the bottom of my heart for doing this to you.
Third assure........I swear honey, I see now what got into me and I assure you I will never allow myself to go down that path again, especially knowing now how deeply it hurt you...blah blah blah
You get the picture......now write that letter. If he loves you he will accept this kind of apology. Whatever you do, remember what you wrote as an assurance to him because if this happens again, it becomes a trust issue and you will loose him forever.
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reader, Emaz help +, writes (12 August 2008):
 Uh ohhh
Obviously you really need to apolagise and do a lot of grovelling
He's obviously very upset and hurt by your accusations
You need to tell him how much you love him and say that deep down you knew he would never hurt you
Don't go too over the top on the grovelling though because you may just annoy him!
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (12 August 2008):
 Oh dear! You will have to admit to him that you made a terrible mistake, and you are very very sorry and it will never happen again.... If he loves you there might be a chance that he will want to try again...
Honeygirl
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