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writes:I'm trying to find out whether I'll regret ending my relationship (again!). My partner and I split up in February - this year after been seeing each other for just over 4 years although we didn't live together or anything. We each have children from previous relationships and he is also 7 years older than me.It was my decision to split up in February as things just hadn't been right since around September. We had drifted apart somewhat and I think to a degree it was me that changed over a period of time. We got together quite soon after my husband and I separated and I'm not sure if that has anything to with it - in the fact that I am a stronger person etc now.Anyway, he kept texting me to try and make another go of it - and I suppose I felt a duty to give it another go so we started seeing each other again early September.Since then though, no matter how I try, things just aren't how they once were. That time apart has changed things even more. There is no chemistry between us at all anymore and we're stuggling for conversation sometimes. I'm also finding it hard to want to spend time with him - we're just going out on a Saturday night - and it's not bothering me.I think I'm sure the relationship has hit the end of the road but how will I really know? I can't say I'm afraid of being single because that doesn't worry me. I keep thinking he's a good, honest guy and should I keep trying to see if the feelings come back? We just don't seem to have anything in common anymore and the physical attraction for him just isn't there anymore. Has anyone else been in the same situation? Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007): I broke up with my ex after being with him for 2 years. He was a nice guy and treated me well but as with you, we drifted apart. We were at different points in our life and i did not enjoy his company or was physically attracted to him anymore.
It was hard for me to break up with him because he was my best friend. It was very hard to do and I cried every day for about a month for the guily I felt. I did not love him anymore, but i did hurt him by breaking it off. I was alone for awhile and I missed having someone around.
Put yourself in a "roles reversed" situation. If he felt that way about you, wouldn't you want him to end things so you won't waste each others time?
I think you already know it is time to let go. Feelings most likely won't come back. I tried the same thing. I am currently dating someone knew whom I have very strong chemistry with. That is what you need. I hope this helps. I am sorry for you situation. It is hard but with time, it will all work out
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