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writes:First of all I have way bigger problems than this one but maybe I can do somthing about this... so backround info then... the problem then the question. I have had an on and off thing with this guy for about 5 months now and he tells me he likes me and I tell him I like him too but whenever we pass each other in the halls when we established that we liked each other yet again.. I would feel awkward going up to him and he ignored me. Also we have had 3 big breaks where he said he wasn't into commitment, or he didn't know why he told me he was thinking about us being more serious, or he ignored me at this party that we both went to.I even sat next to him on the side of the dance floor and he looked at me but said nothing so I left because it was awkward and when we were friends it was all good and not awkward but we still liked each other so we would have another thing. Each time we would really start to like each other he would just start to ignore me and tell me he doesn't like me... All in all it hurt sooo soo bad. Now this is the fourth time he has done this but he said he wanted to ask me out like to be his girlfriend and we were gunna talk about this at school the upcoming Monday because I was outta town. You wanna know what happened that Monday...?I went up to say hi and was gunna give him a hug and he was gunna hug back but hugged another person so I said oh mate well talk to you later. That night we were texting and he said he only asked me out because he was drunk and just went along with it for the rest of the weekend because he didn't know why. I told him how I felt which I never have done before, I told him how hurt I was and he screwed me over 4 times.. He has always randomly text me he loves me like really random so we will be talking about bananas and how good they are then he would text me I love you. He still said after this fouth time that he loved me but I told him even if he loved me as a friend or whatever he would have cared but he doesn't care. He said that he did care and he would prove it to me the next day. The next day when we usally see each other he wasn't even there. I didn't see him all that day... hahaha yea he really cares. That night he text me hey and I said hi and he said what's up, I said not much and he said cool and then we didn't talk any more. Today I really was wanting to talk with him so a place where everyone chills he was there but I couldn't even say hi to him.. What is wrong with me? He saw me and didn't say anything either... How do I handle this and just get over him or at least forget him... Oh and my friend is now telling me she kind of likes him so that doesn't help at all... and p.s he is a year younger than me.(14)
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (17 February 2009):
 Hey again, just be a little more reserved towards him. don't give him all your attention and mabey give more to someone else. he will likely become jealous of this. Does he go to church for you or for religion?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): thank you for your advice but this is going to be hard because i still want to be his friend, because we go to the same church so i see him 2 nights a week... and we have alot of the same friends so i dont know
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reader, Griffo +, writes (13 February 2009):
Firstly for lack of a better word, this bloke you like is full of shit - for him, who said there was commitment from you anyway it's only a chat right???
I think he's a confused little boy who needs to wake up smell the roses and either date you or forget and stop acting like a bloody gronk! It seems as thought he is spending his time making you feel jealous and agitated which honestly makes you want him more. if you feel he's playing games ask yourself this: "Is he waisting your time?" a players one falt is time, they always fail with time, and the problem there is they waste yours - what i mean is "playing games is a waste of your time".
So i say go find a bloke whos gonna be a little more into you and you a little more into him.
With this bloke who's fooling you around, do this, from today onwards ignore him, play better than him because you already are better. It will eventually drag him down and nobody will like him and he will all of a sudden realise what he's lost, "YOU" and that is the worst feeling ever.
You will need to be strong and move on. You can do it.
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