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writes:me and my husband got back together after splitting nearly 2 yrs ago we have always had a rocky marriage and since we split we have been on and off. things was great at first but now we never have sex (althouh we have never been ppl for having sex every day but we did every week) he says its because hes not in mood he hates himself we live apart but have children together and are tryng to sort things out for us and the kids. i found out recently that he ahd signed up to a dating agency when i asked him why he said he doesnt know he did it when he was drunk. he says he loves me and wants to be with me and definately doesnt want anone else but hes signed up to a dating agency and looks at pictures of other women on his computer he wont tell me his password to get on internet. i cant talk to anyone cause my family dont get on with him cause the dont lke the way he treats me even though its not just him my friends are his friends as well and tell me to walk away but i love him too much and have tried to walk away but we always ends up getting drawn back together and i feel embarrassed talking to anyone, im a person who bottles things up but then it all gets too much and i flip. hes 10 yrs older than me and i wouldnt say i was ugly my body is not bad to say i have had children. please help. advice very greatly recieved on what to do or how to get him intrested in me again.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (10 November 2007):
 He sounds like he could have commitment issues. Strange to say for a man who was willing to get married, but the place between 'fully commited' yet 'fully separated' is where commitment-phobes like to be, and that's where he seems to be keeping your relationship.
I recommend a very good book on this. It may miss the mark for you, but it also may suddenly shed light and understanding on his seemingly paradoxical behaviour. It's called:
He's scared, She's scared: understanding the hidden fears that sabotage your relationships. By Steven Carter and Julia Sokol
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reader, Avaida  +, writes (10 November 2007):
Don't be clingy. Don't show much interest. You're already living apart, live single. Enjoy yourself. Take care of yourself. If he sees you moving forward, he will come back. And if he doesn't, you'll be heading in a better direction anyway!Don't wait for him to initiate sexual encounters, and don't be afraid of rejection. Start things.If you can, go see a counselor, either alone or together. It will help tremendously.
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