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writes:Hello, I am 21 studying at university.I wanted to ask about how much time you should know a person before taking a move for dating/relationship?? And how do you show you are interested and take the move?? please share your views and experiences. thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone for your time and your advice :-) Appreciated :-)
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (13 February 2013):
This is kind of a silly question and I had to resist the urge to make a joke here.
Why would you wait at all? If you've a girl that you like, ask her out. Or if you've been talking with someone and you see potential, then ask them out. I have had luck asking strangers out, but I think you have to work your way up to that.
Maybe your question is "how long until you make it official?" That's a little trickier. The best answer I can give is use your intuition; if you're off you learn through experience.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 February 2013):
 Tongue in cheek reply: how long should you know a person before you move to a dating relationship: an hour. Or less.
If you meet someone and you want to get to know them better… ask them out… no need to pussy foot around and wait weeks or days even… then they come on here and post.. “I see him every day on campus why won’t he ask me out”
How do you let them know you are interested? “hey Sally, I’d like to spend time talking to you would you like to get coffee with me Thursday at 4 pm at the student union just us so we can talk?”
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 February 2013):
 I wanted to ask about how much time you should know a person before taking a move for dating/relationship??
-This varies a lot. Depending on what type of person you are on what type of person she is, and on what type of connection you have. You might ask her out on a date after just looking at her and never having talked to her before. Or you might get to know her as a friend without initially being attracted to her, and then after two years you decide to ask her out. There's no "should" when it comes to this. You do what feels natural to you.
And how do you show you are interested and take the move??
- Smile. Ask her about her interests. Give her attention. Be interested in getting to know her by asking questions, hearing what she has to say, talk to her etc. Find out more about her. And smile.. smile... And if you can make her laugh then you're almost there.
How to make the move? You move out of your comfort zone and just ask her out.
A little tip to you though. Most young men I've met have NO clue about taking care of their looks. Women are not that shallow, but we do appreciate a well groomed man. Shave, fix your hair, wear clean clothes and not clothes with holes, or shows that stink of sweaty feet. Brush your teeth, wash your face and walk with your back up straight. And wear clothes that fit you, so many young men wear x-large sizes when they actually should wear a medium. Just be a bit attentive to your looks. So many young men are gorgeous, but they dress and carry themselves like bums. Don't be that guy. Take care of your looks, and like the saying go "strut your stuff". If you've got a great ass then don't wear baggy jeans. If you've got gorgeous eyes then don't hide them behind long bangs. If you've got a dazzling smile then use it! Smile!
If you love yourself, love how you look, and feel comfortable about yourself, then others will be more inclined to see how great you are as well. Just don't let it get to your head, don't get cocky just because you're gorgeous ;)
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