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writes: Ladies please answer. How long do you need to be in a relationship to consider sex? What things need to be considered? What things does the relationship need to have to consider sex?Ladies do you like to take things in stages (ie kissing, making out, etc) or are you likely to go all out?Ladies do you have any experience with instant attraction? Did it lead to sex right a way or did you wait? Details are helpful
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reader, NoTHiiNg ReAlLy  +, writes (18 December 2008):
so basically for some reason i though you were a girl.. so same advice as i posted, just take out the part where i called you girl.. haha
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reader, NoTHiiNg ReAlLy +, writes (18 December 2008):
to me its really just based off instinct... when you feel ready is the time to do it.. with my last boyfriend i waited 4 months to have full on out sex, and with my husband i only waited like 2 weeks after meeting him (a week after we started dating) to have sex with him..
but then again i have also had sex with a couple guys on the first date, its all about attraction girl.. when you are ready you will know. just go with the flow and let it happen.. i mean i would have slept with my husband the first day i met him, i mean hes really attractive, and has the most amazing personality, but there were a few barriers preventing that from happening, but ya, other than that, really the only advice i can give you if do what you feel is right at the time.. kissing, touching is usually the start.. if it goes further and your okay with it, just let it, even if its the first date.. remember, you can always say NO if it goes to far or you get uncomfortable.. umm, i dont know if i really wanna right much else, its getting long, but if you wanna message me back, i can talk to you more about it if you would like..
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reader, loub  +, writes (18 December 2008):
Basically i dont really mind, if i feel comfortable with having sex pretty soon why not, if you dont have sex for a while thats fine too but i dont see why you whould have to wait a certain amount of time. When you feel comfprtable then do it.
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (17 December 2008):
 I could write a book on all this. With my first lover, I waited 2 months, and held back like above. Relationships can end at any point, but it depends what you want. If you want to wait until you know you really like each-other and know you have stuff in common, I would wait over 1 month. Otherwise before you know it you have slept together and you split because you don't have anything in common.
If you would only have sex because you genuinely love the other person, then you would have a very long wait 6-8 months. So an inbetween point to be fond of each-other and really fancy etc.
The instant attraction does exist, on the lust front, which is what it is connection on the sexual level only. You probably wouldn't have anything in common. So because you are asking I bet you have not had sex yet and view things as more special than this and you actually like her.
As you are young, I expect you are a virgin, so it's nice if things are special and you quite like eachother first and be sure you have stuff in common.
It's easy as time progresses over the years for things to happen sooner because it's what you are used to and becaue the other person often pushes you in that direction. In that case you play things by ear and see how it goes. In that you accept the fun of the attraction and connection if that's all it is, and play it by ear if things become more serious.
I think it's different choices at different times/years etc.
We actually slept together on our first date, and believe it or not it was my latter approach that made that happen. I was sick and tired of being the one who always had to say about waiting and the guy who wanted to have sex soon.
Believe it or not our relationship progressed and we got married and still together now!
We met when I was 21. Which is why I think my attitude changed from 18-21, yeah I was still young, but not as sensitive about these things.
So I would say the younger you are the longer you leave it and be sure you are happy etc.
Fiona.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (17 December 2008):
 Personally speaking...I'm not the sex on the first date kinda gal. It gives it all up to easily, nothing to build anticipation for...I like to let things build up, kissing, over the clothes stuff, then sex when it feels right :)
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