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writes:Right so, I need some advice.First of all I want you to know that I'm actually 17 and still have a year left in school.Recently I had sex with one of my best guy friends who I have been in love with for about a year. He has told me not to tell anyone which is fair enough as both the social circle we share and my own friends from school, which he is connected to through a few different people, are quite gossipy and it will cause a massive scandal. The thing with this is that although I understand and I agree, I felt really rejected. But that's just some back story, not my actual problem.The thing is that he said that he came a little and he was worried that he got me pregnant. I said to him that it was unlikely, but then I found out that I counted wrong.According to the ovulation calculators on the internet, I should be ovulating on the 27th or 28th and I had sex on the 24th.That would be the 4th or 5th day for the sperm to be in there and I was wondering, if they live 3-5 days, how likely is it that they actually make it to 5 days and is there any way of me knowing if I'm pregnant right now or do I have to wait a couple of weeks?
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (28 April 2010):
 Hey, I was certain I understood all that stuff having been a biology major but I learned a couple of things from that video too! Education: a good thing. :D
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 April 2010):
Ahhhh, you have "frenemies".... I understand. It's time to move on to a better class of friends. You'll manage, you're still in school. Trust me, things change A LOT between 17 and 27.
Good luck to you.
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reader, pancakes rule +, writes (28 April 2010):
pancakes rule is verified as being by the original poster of the question @Tisha, it would just be a scandal because some of our friends are incredibly stupid, bitchy, and a few of them are in love with him.
Thank you so much everyone for the advice, I really apriciate it.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 April 2010):
http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
It isn't going to win an academy award, but it gets the message across.
I think it's too late for what we in the US call Plan B, the emergency contraception pill.
I think you now have to wait until you miss a period. If you don't miss it, well then, problem averted. Here's some information on that: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/pregnancy/pregnancy-test-21227.htm
On to your back story, about this guy. Okay, don't feel too rejected just yet. Some guys take a while to feel comfortable changing status from 'single' to 'in a budding relationship' especially if it is with a friend.
True story: my now-husband and I dated 'in secret' for a year. Well, obviously, everyone around us knew, we just didn't broadcast it. It took him a while to feel comfortable with the whole idea. I was patient, I understood him well enough to know his unease wasn't because I wasn't fabulous and smashing and wonderful. (I am *cough* all those things. As I'm sure you are.) It was because he was concerned how it would affect our friends if we dated and then broke up. He didn't want anyone to feel uncomfortable or upset the balance of friendships if things didn't work out.
So may I suggest that you be a bit patient, and stay calm and not freak out at this just yet? He may not be rejecting you, he may be very very cautious, overly concerned about what other people think. So give it a bit of time and go on as if you weren't too bothered by it.
And how could this cause a massive scandal? Is he a teacher? Does he have a girlfriend?
Anyway, there's the advice I have for you, for what it's worth. I hope things work out for you.
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reader, ffogalilly +, writes (28 April 2010):
You ovulate about 14 days after you menstruate, I know sperm can live inside you for a few days. You can test a day after your missed period.
I would always use condoms, and get on some form of birth control.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (28 April 2010):
 You can get pregnant practically anytime. You should always use a condom to prevent pregnancy or STD's. Simply trying to count the days you may or may not be ovulating is not a realistic form of birth control.
A home pregnancy test will be the best way to tell, but in most cases shouldn't be taken until you are at least a few days late with your period.
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