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writes:I let my bf take naked pictures of me, in hopes that he would stop looking at porn. Not only did he continue looking at porn, but he doesn't even use the pictures of me. He said he doesn't think that the pictures of me are "real" enough, or that I'm not into it enough. My question is, how is porn any more real than picture of ME? His real girlfriend who he has real sex with? I'm really hurt by this. I feel like I'm not fantasy material, or I'm just not attractive enough. Is he just not attracted to me? What should I do?
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reader, Yos  +, writes (12 June 2012):
 Wow. Well I guess that shows how distorting porn can get: that it seems to him to be more 'real' than ... reality.
The link that person12345 is excellent, it will explain what's going on.
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reader, Candycane1234  +, writes (12 June 2012):
 At least your bf accepted the pics of you mine made up some bullshit to get out of having them.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (12 June 2012):
 This website will help explain why a guy would choose to watch porn over his girlfriend:
http://www.yourbrainonporn.com
I'm sorry this hurts so much for you, this is a reflection on society not on you. It's not about attractiveness or love, it's about how poorly people's brains deal with novelty/stimulation. I have many links on my profile, they might be worth reading through.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (12 June 2012):
 Porn actresses would spend 2 hours to groom themselves. They are trained to pose and look confident and seductive. Is it your idea to have your picture taken, or his? Here, real means porn material. There is a website yourbrainonporn.com which talks about how your brain gets addicted and conditioned to a certain image in order to get off. You are real life, the porn actresses are real porn. Your boyfriend got used to looking at skinny barbie dolls with surgery done. It doesn't mean you are not attractive. There is the sex triggering attractive, and there is the natural attractive. It only means that it has become a habit for him to use fantasy images for his penis to respond in order to masturbate. He is not fantasy material either. I bet he couldn't last as long as that 30 minute clip. Imagine what your boyfriend would be like if he were casted in a porn film. If porn is indeed hurting your sexual relationship, you have to let him know. I have to admit certain actresses and actors do look good in porn, but in real life, no one is going to spend hours on makeup and hair before every sex session. But porn is a click away to thousands of variety up there. I would say he is horny, his hormones are raging but in a relationship he has to consider your feelings.
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