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anonymous
writes:My guy is a plumber by profession. I love him very much and we been in love for three years.When he had little money on him last year i rented an apartment for him, fed him through last year. Yet i don't know much about his life. He excludes me from parts of his life. He promised taking me to see his relations last year but never fulfilled his promises. Im getting tired and confused. What do i do?
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reader, its ok  +, writes (26 January 2011):
I'm sorry girl but it seems like he has various different girls all over the place who he just uses for what he can get-I'm sorry but he sounds like an a-hole
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reader, Liebes Kummer +, writes (26 January 2011):
I'm sorry to have tell you this but, the guy is just using you.
Dump him like yesterday !
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2011): You say you've been in love for three years, yet your boyfriend is not demonstrating this, sorry, but if you have been going out for three years, and you have still NOT met his relations, friends and generally excluded from his life, you need to STOP supporting him in any way financially.
It concerns me that you say " he had little money on him last year" so fed and rented an apartment for him. WHAT???
What proof do you have he had little money, did he tell you this, or had he lost his job, as being a plumber, is a job that is usually in demand, and I'm afraid with him not including you in his life, tells me this man is NOT all he seems. What provisions has he made to pay you back in full? None I suspect.
Please stop being a doormat, yes tough I know to read that, but if you act like one ( love or not ) you will be taken for one, along with your hard earned cash.
Please don't continue giving him money, and if he doesn't include you in his life after three years, he's not going to, so stop including him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2011): So, you have been dating for 3 years and you rented him an apartment but you've never met his family?
I think the answer is pretty obvious.
He is either seeing somebody else or using you for financial gain.
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reader, HelpyMcHelperson +, writes (26 January 2011):
So you say you have been in love for three years yet you have never met his family? That on its own is suspicous.
If it has been this long and he still doesn't include you in certain parts of his life my instincts tell me that he is probably stringing you along for sex and is possibly cheating on you.
I think that you should confront him about this or at the very least try to get him to open up, be firm and tell him that you want to be included in all of his life.
If he doesn't do this or confesses to what I suspect then leave him so that you can find a man who won't waste your time.
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