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writes:How does an age gap affect a relationship?Explain whats good and bad when you have a 20years gap boyfriend? Reply to this Question
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reader, artian  +, writes (11 March 2009):
 The main effects are the social pressures and comments from others regarding your status.
Others opinions and prejudices can have an effect and cause troubling times.
Regards to good and bad, that all depends on what you experience in that relationship and the obstacles you meet on your journey alike any relationship.
However, I would be concerned if my daughter / son was seeing a guy / lady 20 years older because it is so much easier for someone with much more experience than you to manipulate you.
Take care.
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reader, artian +, writes (10 March 2009):
Age gaps are fine because there are all sorts of reasons why different ages are attracted to each other.
Girls mature more quickly than boys. Thus, older guy younger woman.
However, When a womans age approaches 45-50 thing become different because of hormones and the ability to have children.
So, if a woman is with a younger guy when reaching this age it can a contribute to added pressure that the guy feels he is not ready / or need to cope with.
Thus, this is another reason why it is generally accepted that younger women go with older guys.
But if both happy its up to the individuals. Why not!!!
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reader, rose23 +, writes (28 November 2007):
rose23 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhow can you say if your bf which is older than you in a long distance relationship is still looking a new gals on the web?
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reader, BadAsh6705  +, writes (26 November 2007):
 I think it depends on the ages you are at. If you are a young adult 18-25 dating someone say, 20 years older there are probably more very important differences in lifestyle, maturity, and what you are each wanting in a relationship that could cause many problems. If you are more stable and established in your life and career an age difference probably won't make much of a difference. I think it really depends on what you want in life, if you want kids, marriage, etc.
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reader, love-him +, writes (25 November 2007):
 Hey sugar, there are allsorts of advantages and disadvantages, but the most important thing it the amount you love and trust each other :) I hope i helped, Feel free to mail me aout anything x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2007): i agree with calamatysil she said exactly what i would say...I have a wife who is much younger than me and we dont have the same trin of thoughts or interests...i am retired and want to relax she cant retire for years...and we have kids and every thing is different attitudes... i am more patient since i raised other children to adults...this is her first time...she i too intense...etc.etctim
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reader, calamitysil +, writes (24 November 2007):
 Depends on each individual really. I think it's easier in society if it's the man who's older than the woman. Despite the "Toy Boy" trend, it still looks very silly when an old woman steps out with someone old enough to be her son. Of course some people rise above what others think. So apart from what society thinks, it's important to be compatible, not just sexually because when that excitement dies down (which it will), what else are you going to do together? Other things to consider are children. They may already have kids who may or may not be adults, so you're not just dating the person but also their family, ie they come as a package.Then consider yourselves maybe 10 years down the line, where will you both be? Hopefully not in a nursing home, while the other hits the nightclubs!!! Different energy levels can also cause friction. The older person may want a quiet life, whilst the other one wants more action. Older people can also be more set in their ways, carry a lot of baggage (ex partners, children etc), and may have trust issues if they've been hurt. Good points? Well, possibly stability in that they may own their own house, stable jobs, life experience, a younger partner can boost their ego, give them a new lease of life. At the end of the day it's what you make it, and if you both love and want each other, no obstacles are too high to climb. Good luck!
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reader, sexygurlchristmas2008 +, writes (24 November 2007):
 my bf and i are 24 years apart so don't worry
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