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26-29,
anonymous
writes:My friends always spread rumors about me, and tried to ruin my reputation.. made fake facebook accounts of me, and did everything they could. And it worked, now I am in grade 9, and the people in my gym class had spread a rumor that me and my friend are lesbians. I was wondering how to clear up a rumor, its starting to get outta hand, Apparently I hump her in gym class, and we kissed at a sleepover, and everything.. which is not true obviously. There's nothing wrong with lesbians.. it's just, starting to piss me off, cause i'm getting made fun of, and its not true. So how can you clear this up?
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (31 May 2012):
 You are being bullied and trust me these kids are NOT your friends! Talk it over with your parents, then have a meeting with the school prinicpals. Those kids could be and probably should be suspended for their actions. They should also be forced to take down the fake Facebook information and have the account permanently removed. Then you may need to consider switching to a different school and starting fresh. After that you should make new friends and don't discuss this issue anymore, because the more you talk about it to new friends at your new school, the more apt it is to follow you there. Take action. Being bullied is against the law now. Their parents could land in court.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (31 May 2012):
 Some "friends".....
The easiest way to kill a rumor is to ignore it......
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reader, G's_Girl  +, writes (31 May 2012):
 Hi Anonymous,
Well, your "friends" are not really your friends, what with spreading false rumours about you, trying to ruin your reputation and making fake facebook pages!
As The Realist has said, the best way is to ignore it. Eventually it will die a slow death, when they realise you don't react, and when they find a new target to abuse.
This is when you can ascertain who your true friends are, and those that are just using or abusing you/your friendship. Those that remain true, give them your time and energy, and the rest, ignore them and in time it will blow over.
Best Wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2012): The problem with rumors are that if you deny them, people feel you're lying to cover it up - even if you have the best argument, people will still think that the rumors may have SOME truth to them since you had to go to such lengths to protect your self image. If you ignore them and try to brush them off as nothing, people will still associate you with the rumor. So what's the best thing to do? Go above and beyond. What I mean by that is agree with the rumor and make it seem ridiculous. Case in point: someone spreads a rumor that you're stealing money from the company you work at. If you happen to overhear people talking about it, you say, while there's as many people around as possible, "Yep, I've been stealing as much money as possible so I can finally take that first-class trip to Mars and be the first human to settle the planet."
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reader, The Realist +, writes (31 May 2012):
 The best way to clear this up is too ignore it and eventually people will stop because it is no longer entertaining to see your reaction to them talking about you.
Another approach only works if you have the right level of confidence and that is to agree with it or brush it off like yeah it happened, so what. Don't do that though unless you are 100% commited to going through with it.
Typically the less you do in regaurds to the rumors the better it is for you.
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