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writes:Hey friends..I know this is weird..but can anyone help me to fix this problem? I saw my bf looking at my breasts. We were sitting close to each other and i was telling him about something looking somewhere else. As i turned my head towards him, i saw him looking at my breasts. He immediately turned his head and started talking in a hesitant manner..i think he got scared as i saw him. So i just smiled back and said nothing at that time.Now, i think i should confess to him.. I need help with this. I dont know how to do it..as we both are extremely shy and have never had sex before. Although its been 2 yrs still we just talk about everything openly but hardly discuss such things out of shyness. I want him to be more expressive.How should i confess about this incident to him.? So that he doesnt feel awkward and accept it.We've just kissed and hugged before.. So its kinda weird feeling. I am just confused..Thanx..:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): So, you caught your boyfriend looking at your breasts. That can hardly be called an incident. Men are interested in women's breasts. That is a fact of life. Your boyfriend is no different. I don't understand why you think you should talk about this particular "incident" with him. Now, if you want to talk about sex with him, than I understand your anxiety. I assume that you are planning on remaining a virgin until marriage, so right now you don't really need to talk about it if it makes you that uncomfortable. Next time, when you catch him looking at your breasts, just give him an encouraging smile.
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reader, Tom14916  +, writes (1 November 2010):
 Today, I'm a middle aged man, so maybe I'm not the right person to post an answer. BUT, when I was 17, good Lord was I shy about sex. Mostly, I was afraid of doing something wrong and getting rejected.
If I were in your shoes? Take a really small gamble. Next time you two are alone, face him and gently but matter-of-factly take his face in your hands and make him look at your breasts (shirt on, of course). Remind him with a smile (and yourself!) that half of humanity is female, he might as well get used to the fact that you have breasts. If he doesn't have a complete meltdown, follow that up by taking his hands and putting them on your breasts. Don't let him get all hot and bothered (you either!), keep it sort of clinical, like a biology class. He probably needs to have it spelled out to him that your breasts are not off-limits. OK, so you're both shy - one of you is going to have to take charge, and it's probably going to have to be you.
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reader, Miss Taterbutt +, writes (31 October 2010):
 I reacted the same way that you and your boyfriend do to my boyfriend when we first began to be sexually active. I didn't realize how badly it affected the physicality of our relationship, until him and I finally began talking openly about what each other likes, dislikes, etc.
Just as any other aspect of your relationship, you have to be open about everything. If you two cannot express your concerns, especially about sex, I can tell you from experience, if you two do ever decide to get physical, it will be very difficult to enjoy it completely.
Talking freely about things is how you begin to know your partner. If he is not able to bring up the subject, you should. "I don't want to make you feel uncomfortable, but I noticed you staring at my chest the other night. What was going through your mind?"
I don't know. Something along that nature, I suppose. Coming on too strong could frighten him, though, and he'd be hesitant to talk about it.
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