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30-35,
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writes:Hello everyone.I feel really down from time to time because of this. Right now I'm in a loving relationship, and I could not ask for anything more. He's the one for me, and I'm the one for him. There's no question about it.However, before him I was in another serious relationship where I was the guy's first love. I was using him as a rebound for this relationship (we had a one year break up) and I felt horrible about it. I really did, so I ended things there and told him he deserved what I could not give him. He fought hard for it, and I really tried to learn how to love him.Now when we broke up, it was during the time I was accepted into his college states away. I wasn't going to go (I was just going to go to be there with him, bad idea but I flaked out in the end! :D ) and two of my friends went instead. My 'friends' got very upset with me for not going to college with them, and stopped talking to me when they arrived there for a year. I cared about it because they were my only two friends, the ones that knew everything about me and etc. Anyways, while they were gone, I made up with my boyfriend (the one I have now) and things couldn't be better. We're engaged now, and everything's perfect but...I invited the two friends to my wedding in hopes they would accept. But then I found out that one of them talked -a lot- behind my back to people over there, and even tried to hook up with my ex. Together they badmouthed me, talked about my body, how I looked, and how I was a total b*****.. needless to say, I felt really upset about it all. Anyways she then said she was going to attend, acting very friendly with me. I can't believe what happened.I want to retract the wedding invitation but how do I do this? I have a lot of people coming to me telling me all these things about her, and she even went around showing off a letter that I wrote to her that I was sorry if I was a bad friend which I wrote when I didn't know why they ignored me.I want to do this in a civil and quiet manner. Do I simply tell her that there's not enough room for her there, or etc? Many of our mutual friends are coming so I can't really lie around it. Also I want to be able to tell her she can't come without her making it seem like she's the victim which she does VERY often.
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reader, Elydiese  +, writes (3 April 2012):
I absolutely love cerberus's answer but again would probably cause too much drama and you'd worry about what would be said i suggest going with what Wisdom said and just tell the truth that you've heard whats been said and that there should be no contact as it means you wont have to make excuses if she ever gets in touch to see how you are or anything you'll just have that gone from your life :) hope this helps and congrats on the wedding :) xx
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (3 April 2012):
 I agree with Auntie Wisdom too.
I do love the "Sugertits note" from Cerberus, however, that will only cause drama. Fun though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2012): Click on her Facebook profile, select message, enter "Hey Sugartits, how are you? Listen bad news about the wedding, it turns out that you're a two-faced, backstabbing bitch and guess what? The backstabbing bitch table has been over-allocated so I've had to drop you from the wedding. These are regrettable circumstances and if I'd known sooner that you were a slimy, sneaky cunt I would have made sure we had an extra table to accommodate you in the corner of the reception hall with a nice serving of fresh, steamy dog shit for you to sink your venomous mandibles into.
Have a nice day. :D
P.S. Feel free to show this message to whomever you like, print it out and post it all around if you like because I'm going to let everyone know what kind of person you really are anyway. Remember a real woman isn't afraid to tell people what she really thinks of them. Now go out there and tell everyone how horrible I am and have a good cry for yourself."
Click send. Feel a huge wave of relief and satisfaction envelope your body and smile.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (3 April 2012):
 I agree with wisdom. A letter is a great way to tell her not to come. What a cow!
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reader, Wisdom  +, writes (3 April 2012):
 I would just call her or write to her, Tell her that you know everything and you think it would be best if you no longer have contact with her nor come to your wedding. Take the high road, wish her all the best for her future and then don't respond to any contact.
No one needs that in their lives.
Good luck
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