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female
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anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. I didn't realize as such before but the other day my boyfriend told me I am too controlling and demanding in our relationship and is sometimes hard to handle. I then realized I am.The only trouble is I can't stop, it's what I like and who I am. I LIKE being in control and I'm also a very jealous person which makes it worse so he isn't allowed to speak to girls I don't know without telling me, look at girls on the street, have girls on Facebook from his past etc. I am very demanding and like everything my way, I do feel selfish but I just can't help it! I'm just not happy if he doesn't do what I want. Don't get me wrong, I don't STOP him from doing what he wants but I just can't do it with him, I just can't do something I'm not interested in even if he does the stuff I like.I don't know if this is because I was the youngest in my family and was bought up spoilt? (my boyfriend thinks so), but I just can't stop being controlling and telling him what to do etc, I just like everything my way. I don't want to be like this and don't want to push him away. How do I stop this?
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reader, Hopeful Romantic  +, writes (4 May 2012):
 I tell my man how to do things as well and he also hates it.
My argument is, am I really suppose to live with you doing things the way I don't like it forever?
There is no easy answer to solve your question...
My best advice to you is what I have given myself...
Try to fight your battles.
Try to not ALWAYS correct him - only sometimes if you really can't live with the way he did something.
And always thank him. Tell him you're proud of him and praise the work he does for himself and for you.
This is not the best answer, but hopefully it will help a little...
just think, you don't want to be bossed around, so try not to boss him around.
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