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writes:I went to the Doctor on Friday to find out about a lump on my back. The doctor told me that i was to have surgery to take it out. He said it could be one of three things, 1. Cancer 2. Tumor 3. Cyst. We are hoping for a Cyst but im scared. I try to put up a brave front for my family and friends, but my walls are cracking. I was so worried today that I got sick. I dont know what to do. I go to have it removed next Monday, and i wont find out exactly what it is for another two weeks. How do i stay strong for my family and friends. I go Wednesday to see my dads side of the family and there are three little ones that worship my brother and me and will be totally upset when they find out. How do I help them not to worry? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sissy 1992 +, writes (11 August 2011):
Sissy 1992 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Sorry Its been a while since I posted this but I decided to get on here and look at things... Come to find out it was a Tumor but It was Binine. I was so relieved... Thank you for all your support!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2010): Hie
First of all, stay cool. I am not sure why your doctor is vague about this. Because if it was cancer then they would have asked you for certain tests or biopsy before deciding on a surgery. Now, if they think that it is a certain type of tumor which could be cancerous they might opt for surgery or even refer you to an Oncosurgeon for confirmation.
So, I think it is less likey that it is cancer. So forget it.
You don't know what life has to offer. You can't believe that it is going to be a bed of roses always. A surgery is nothing to be frightened of. And general anesthesia is a wonderful feeling. It is not scary. So be brave and the braver you are the less likely it is going to hurt you.
Mind you, there is no harm in opening up your feleings to your family members or the doctor himself. Ask him as many questions as possible before the surgery as to the outcomes, precautions you or your family members may have to take and so on.
So don't stress now and God bless!!
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reader, Miss.Me +, writes (23 November 2010):
 I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such a hard time. Your question shows what a sweetheart you are. I hope the lump will be nothing serious. About your question being strong for your family - it helps when you and the people around you are strong, but know that it's also healthy to show your true emotions. Whatever news you get to hear from the doctor just know that you will get over it overtime. I'm saying that to let you know it won't always be sad times. What helps me overcome negative things happening is knowing/believing that everything happens for a reason - a good reason. Tell that to your loved ones. Also let them know that with their support you will be strong to take on anything. Tell the younger family members that once in a while people get sick and they need to get their ailment taken care of; sometimes its a minor thing, other times it can be serious. But what's more important (than even prescribed medication) is the attitude you have towards life. Do let us know how things go! Hopefully it will be nothing but good news :)
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reader, Sissy 1992 +, writes (23 November 2010):
Sissy 1992 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe younger ones are 12 9 and 6 so they are not that little. I know i should let my guard down but i cant help trying to hide it. I hate to see my family members upset that is the one thing that bothers me. An I promise you guys will be the next to know after my family of course. :)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 November 2010):
 Hunny you need to try and stop worrying so much about your family, i know its hard on them but its even harder on you sweetie you need to take time out and think about yourself and look after yourself, your family and friends are there to support you so let your gaurd down in front of them and let them be a shoulder for you, i know you dont want to worry them anymore than you need to but sweetie they are going to worry anyway weather you are trying to be brave or not, it is ok to show them that you are scared and that you need comforted, thats what family and friends are there for, so show them how you feel and let them take care of you, it will make you feel so much better.
As for the little ones, are they only children? If they are then maybe its best that they arent told until you find out more in a few weeks. Children dont understand the whole concept of cancer most of the time and there is no point stressing them out until you know more.
Goodluck with the results i hope that it is only a cyst, be sure to write back and let us know how it goes. God Bless.
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