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writes:I'm 16 (soon to be 17) dating a 19 year old for nearly a month. We aren't official yet, but it's getting there. The age doesn't concern me, my problem is the fact that I've NEVER been in a relationship before, I've never even kissed a guy. This guy is the first guy to like me, and we haven't kissed yet. He knows I've never kissed anyone before, but truthfully, I am ready to kiss him, but I'm just really scared and nervous. He flirts abit, and he always tells me how he's going to kiss me the next time he see's me so I become relaxed (Lately I've been very paranoid and stressed, mainly because I find it hard to believe that he likes me when I've never been liked before, so I keep questioning him). Anyways, yesterday we were talking and I was being quite off with him because I was stressed and my parents are going through a divorce so I get moody quite often because of it, and I was kind of taking it out on him and I asked him "Do you ever feel as though I dont like you?" and he said "Yes, many times, I don't know where to start". I reassured him that I really do like him, but I just don't know how to show it. I've read up on 'how to flirt' on the internet, but it doesn't help that much because were still teenagers, and the grown up flirting is different. I just need a few tips on how to flirt, and how to show that I care, because I really do but he feels as though I don't. I'm seeing him on Wednesday, so any ideas as to what I can do? I don't want to be too forward because we are taking things slow.Thanks in advance.
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reader, loseCONTROLx  +, writes (24 May 2009):
 Make sure you use body language, but not too much of it. Touch him when you talk to him, hold his hand, when you hug him hold him tight, stuff like that. Compliment him, and tell him how you feel when you're with him. He most likely won't let you know this, but he will really like it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): well m 17...n like u i had my 1st boyfriend(and the only one so far) after 16 when i was nearing 17...neways...u seem to be reali worried about the kiss factor...
well u can show him that you reali care for him n reali like him by mayb jus holding hands...n being reali close ie right next to eachother...this is the first step...and well the kiss it will jus happen on it's own ta-dah!! more importantly u need to make him believe that u reali like him...tell him, show him--actions speak louder than words but don't go overboard wid ur actions u noe wat i mean...
well hope this was helpful...wish u all the best and hope ur relationship works out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): just kiss him (: it doesnt have to be full on, surprise him with a cheeky peck on the cheek or if you feel confident enough the lips. i think its great that he understands your feelings and isnt pressuring you so why don't you show your appreciation with that little gesture? just to reassure him that you like him (: after that first kiss it will all become easier so just relax and enjoy it. and as for flirting? its meant to be natural so go with the flow (: hope this helps!
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reader, Cherrygurl132pup9  +, writes (24 May 2009):
Hi.Im not sure what you are talking about so could you explain it just teeny bit better?
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reader, lovetoosoon +, writes (24 May 2009):
hey there..!im going through the exact same situation.i just feel u dont need to flirt with the guy. just be yourself and be honest.if he has to like you he will, the way you are and will accept you the way u are.this is only going to help you guys have a better future so that you don't get hurt later on.just be yourself and dont try too hard .it will only mess things up.tell him how much you are ready to take forward this relation and how much you will appreciate and be comfortable and not nervous physically and mentally.talk it out.let him get to know you better.tell him not to freak out in anyways and that he should be honest too.if he likes and wants you to be his girl genuinely he will respect what you say and will not give up on you.this is the 1st relation of your life.try to figure and sort out everything before you get into anything.now who doesnt want the 1st love to be special?all the best!!
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