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writes:Hello! Well,I am 19 and have known this guy since we have been in 9th grade but but became really good friends in 12th grade. We go to different colleges but live at home still which means we are not far away from each other. Every night practically we talk on fb chat. Recently though, he has been kinda flirty. He commented on my profile pic and said that I look very pretty. When we were chatting he said that he thought I was beautiful at senior prom. We're also texting now which we never did before and he's been asking How my day has been? and just conversing. A friend of mine texted or called him a few nights ago which I did not ask him to do. But, he asked this guy if he was into me. He said that he has been for a while now and that we had been talking a good bit lately. He said that he would go out with me. My friend was like "Ask her!" he said that he would do it the next day which was 2 days ago. He has even given me the pet name of Goober which I thouhgt was really silly but sweet. From the sound of this, it does sound like he for sure likes me right? What can I say to him in an obviously subtle way to express that I really do like him and that I have for several months? Why hasn't he asked me out yet? Anything would help! Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHow do I give him a helping hand exactly without making a fool out of myself?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 April 2010):
Men don't do subtle. He's worried because he's not sure how you feel, so subtle won't work at this point. I think you should be brave and tell him how you feel. See what he says about it.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 If he calls you Goober, then you can call him , My Peas.
Goober & The Peas are a cowpunk band from Detroit, Michigan.
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Goobers as in Goobers grape jam,peanut butter and jelly.
Call him 'My Butter ,My Grape, My Jam, My Jello!'
Maybe,he is the shy type and still cannot pluck up enough courage to invite you out.
You will have to give him a helping hand.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 Yes,I'd say you are playing it pretty safe here- it sounds like this guy likes you for sure.
Why has not he asked you out yat ? Because he's a 19 y.o. male :) most of them may look all cool and grown up - but they haven't developed yet the confidence to deal with girls .
When my son was 18 he had a very pretty classmate who had been flirting and batting his lids at him all year long. Eventually the girl decided to take action- and asked him : I'd like to see this new movie, will you come and see it with me Saturday ? And my son just blurted out : Ehr, sorry, I've seen it already yesterday. (Which was the truth, but of course he could have omitted that :) Of course one minute later he wanted to kick himself for having so clumsily missed his chance , but, alas, it was too late. Moral : not everybody is born smooth and debonair;dating is an art that you perfect in time :)
What I would do is a less intimidating variation of my'son's friend technique . Text him or e-mail him, keep the conversation casual, and just mention that there's a movie or a concert or a whatever that you totally would love to see ...and see if he catches the bait.
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