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*KW
writes:HiI just met this girl, she is much younger than me, but this isn't the first time I've hung out with a younger girl so I am aware of any potential pitfalls.She was very nervous about meeting me and backed out once, but the second attempt it worked out fine. She ended up staying at my house all weekend, and the sex was just too good.When I drove her home she even invited me in for a while too but we both had loads to do so I left. She texted me later that evening to say how much she liked everything, then when I went to bed I got a few sexy texts...I answered the first two then fell asleep. I responded to the last couple of texts in the morning.Now - we both know that this won't be a long term relationship but we've connected like crazy...she won't just be a **** buddy to me, maybe friends with benefits, I don't know. But I can't stop thinking about her! I want to text her, I really do, but it's never been my style. I don't text much and girls seem to appreciate it, they say it means Im not needy. But I'm worried that some other guy will move in on her if I don't keep her interested...she works in a city centre bar and gets hit on all the time. How do I let her know I like her and can't wait for the next date but not come across as an annoying idiot? She has already said she wants to meet again but maybe she's changed her mind...I haven't heard from her today at all.
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reader, MsSadie  +, writes (15 August 2013):
 Has it been a long time since you've been genuinely interested in someone? That could have something to do with it.
Why are you so concerned that she'll suddenly meet somebody? It's not like she had been "getting around" before you two hooked up, right?
Also, when you say that the two of you connected are you speaking only about the sexual connection? Why can't something serious come out of this? Do you think that young women are only good for sack sessions?
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reader, DKW +, writes (14 August 2013):
DKW is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the replies. I did text her and it turned out she'd had a bad day at work and did appreciate me texting. I decided to leave it a day as I was going to a gig the next night, when I came out and got back to my car she'd texted asking if I would add her on FB. Then for the rest of that night texts went back and forth and a tentative next hangout was agreed on.
What's the problem? I hear you all ask...the problem is I still can't stop thinking about her and I'm still worried something will happen between now and the next time together.
I've been with younger girls before, been in several relationships since my divorce, but I have NEVER felt like this before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2013): She has shown her interest by inviting you in when you dropper her off, and also by texting you after you got home. Now the ball is back in your court. You are very interested, so don't be distant and worried about coming off as clingy. When you are interested, show it, and if she feels the same, so will she until if and when it lasts. If it doesn't, it wasn't meant to, and if it does, it won't be through any regret on your part that you didn't try your best and do everything to show her you are interested.Why do you automatically assume it won't last? You don't know... you can't base it on age. You can get mature younger people too you know. You can also get immature older people. It's what is in the heart, their intentions, their principles and goals in life.Don't disrespect her by automatically assuming she will be a fwb. What if she wants more? You never know. Give it time, see where it goes, but do your best and give it your best and hope for the same in return.You can't stop thinking about her - a great sign, but an early one of pure excitement :) enjoy the early days, the honeymoon phase, and see if you have more in common than the bedroom. Get to know each other, and see what her goals in life are, if you have anything in common.All girls are different - some want texts, others don't. Find our for yourself what she likes, by asking her when you meet up again. Ask her out again - you are interested, you know she is, and it's your turn now ;-)No matter where she works, or what she does, if she is as into you as you seem to be into her, you don't "have to keep her interested" it should be a mutual thing. When a guy told me he liked me, could not stop thinking about me, and was looking forward to seeing me again = we are still together, 3 years later :) see what I mean?So you won't come across as an idiot, unless she is the wrong girl to begin with who won't appreciate a good thing when she sees it. No risk, no reward.Don't wait for her - pursue her, you ARE the MAN :) Good Luck, ENJOY and have fun!
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reader, MsSadie +, writes (13 August 2013):
Did you guys plan the next date already? If not, shoot her a text with an idea for your next outing. Start of course with a "hey, how are you?" and then, after she replies and you two maybe have a back and forth about that, briefly share your ideas for date #2. Finish by letting her know you're really looking forward to seeing her again.
Brevity is the key in texting, for me at least. But don't think that all girls are exactly the same - she may love to chat through text! It's up to you to gauge her response to hearing from you during the day while she's busy with her life.
How exciting for you! Good luck!
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reader, llifton +, writes (13 August 2013):
 She's initiated contact already by texting you that first night right after. She clearly is into you, otherwise she would not have contacted you after you dropped her off. She wants to see you again. She's prob just waiting on you to initiate first contact this time. You don't seem as though you're coming off ass too needy at all. If anything, you may seem too distant and push her to someone else. Text her! You're fine.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (13 August 2013):
 CALL her if testing isn't your thing. Ask her out.
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