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writes:I have been in a loving relationship for over a year and a half but lately, it feels like things have changed. I haven't been wanting sex as much and I'm afraid that it may be because he isn't exactly in shape, but he never really has been, either, so maybe I'm just losing interest? He also seems to get really impatient with me sometimes. I love him so much but what if I am only staying with him at this point because I am comfortable?Also, at my work, I have been noticing guys that I feel attracted to (dating in our workplace is quite common) but I wouldn't want to cheat on my boyfriend or anything. But what if my boyfriend isn't the right one for me?So my question is, how do I know if my current boyfriend is right for me? And, why can't I stop thinking about these guys I work with? Is it wrong to fantasize about them?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (25 November 2009):
 I think what you're feeling is normal and I see it happen a lot at that year and a half point. When you've gotten super comfortable and you hit a bump because the honeymoon period is coming to a close.
If you're not attracted to him, don't be with him. But, if you love him and think that this feeling may pass, give it time! If it's been a good year and a half, you should give it some time to find a groove and for you to get that spark back with your man. You and your fella should start going on more walks together, and eating better together. His figure is something that can change - if he was a liar, a cheater or an abuser, those are things that can't. If you have a good man who treats you well, I'd put in effort to seeing if you can bring your relationship back up to speed.
Fantasizing about others is completely normal as long as you don't ever act on it. Your thoughts are you own private doings and you can go off to fantasy land with whomever you choose. So don't worry about that.
Good luck, sweetness!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2009): Well me and my girlfriend of two years spoke about the "Fantasizing" and thats all im gonna touch on for know... but everyone does it... as long as your not acting on those actions, and if you act on those actions thats when its time to end the relationship Good Luck hopefully someone else comments to help with your other questions :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2009): Well me and my girlfriend of two years spoke about the "Fantasizing" and thats all im gonna touch on for know... but everyone does it... as long as your not acting on those actions, and if you act on those actions thats when its time to end the relationship Good Luck hopefully someone else comments to help with your other questions :)
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