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writes:I need help getting over my ex we were together for 5 years and during that time he got one of my ex friends pregnant.and.than cheated on me after. A lot happened after that and he drove me crazy I because obsessed with checking to see where he was who he was texting and all that. We broke up but I still couldn't let go cause I was betrayed I deserved to be happy. How do I give up and not be so crazy when it comes to him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): Realize that when you allow yourself to be obsessed about him, you are allowing him to continue destroying your life. Not only did he cheat on you, get someone else pregnant, and other stuff but now even after breaking up he's still monopolizing your thoughts. Why give him that?
when you've been betrayed you feel the need to see justice and so far it hasn't come so you're still incensed about that.
Just tell yourself that his karma will come. if you must, imagine all sorts of future scenarios- that his next girlfriend will cheat on him and get pregnant by another man, for example.
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reader, sammi star  +, writes (2 February 2011):
 It's not going to be easy, despite everything he did he was a part of your life for a long time. You're right, you deserve to be happy. This man has stopped you being happy once while you were with him, are you going to let him continue making you unhappy now that you're apart?
The best thing you can do is hold your head high and work on rebuilding your life. Don't settle for less than you deserve when you're ready for another relationship. Take it one day at a time. Some days will be harder than others but keep reminding yourself how much better things are going to be now that you can focus on yourself and not worry non stop about what he's up to behind your back. Call on your friends for support. It will get easier with time.
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