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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I dated this guy that was a lot older than me and he left/cheated on me for another girl. It was horrible and took me a long time and a lot of emotions to finally get over him. He did apologize multiple times to me and told me that it was our age difference that was the main cause of his desision but i knew if he wanted to be with me he could have. He was on and off with his new gf for a while (his new gf didnt know about us and when she asked he lied to her) and I became friends with him because we work together and i thought it would be easiest. Now they have broken up "for good" and he has been texting, calling, and flirting with me. I don't know if he's just doing this because he's bored and he's fighting with his ex or he actually cares about me. I tell myself that I wouldnt go back to him but i know in the back of my head i want to. Ive debated quitting my job to put this all behind me but i love it and dont feel like i should be penalized. I dont know how to completely get over him if him and his ex pop up everywhere i go. if you have any advice, feel free to speak it because im at a loss.
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reader, lonely1085 +, writes (5 February 2011):
I am saying try your hardest to move on I am married to a man and Iam 9 years older and we have been together for 19 years and now he has decided he doesnt love me anymore Iam in a very bad hurting place in my heart and I am wondering if I can even get over this myself. you are so young and have many loves ahead of you dont settle back to this man.move on I would not wish this hurt on anyone. Smile when you see him and know in the back of your mind that it was his loss and you know you have more great things ahead of you so chin up big smile and you are moving on to happier days...
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reader, doublejack +, writes (20 January 2011):
Older men will use younger women for sex because they're easier to manipulate than older, wiser women are. I'm sorry to be so blunt, but I believe that's what this guy wants from you. You're a "fall back" for when he doesn't have anything else going on in the female department.
My advice is to avoid him as much as possible, and don't send any mixed signals to him. Let him know that you've moved on if he keeps after you. If you need to and the job isn't that important, by all means quit and find a new one.
Best of luck!
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