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writes: I did not get any responses to help me in my torture at the moment! So, posting another cry for help!Thanks for your patience and time to read again!How do I get my ex back ? He said that I have abused him for too long and that he was OUT of it and relaxed.YET. He IS calling me and texting me. I don't understand what he is doing. I understand that when someone LEAVES they do not keep on texting or calling.I want to show him that I changed. Also, I want to KNOW. WHY is he still in contact? I don't want FALSE HOPE.
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reader, ladybug  +, writes (18 June 2007):
 Its very obvious that he still wants you! he just had a little time alone to settle things out between the two of you, you said you want him back, and he also show feedbacks, so dont wait forever!! talk to him NOW say you still want him your pride will lead you to nothing.
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reader, Cateyes  +, writes (17 June 2007):
 More then likely he is "out of the picture" so to speak, however, what I can tell you from my past, is that the men we have split up with normally come back for sex if there is not another woman in their life and IF they can get "it". Your right, it does give us the mixed signals because we are not sure what they are wanting.....UNLESS WE ASK! If he is calling to see how you are doing, ask him to stop then, but if you are wanting to "try" to get back together, you MUST have a talk with him and let him know HOW you have changed and WHY. Anytime anyone has hurt some one, it is not that easy to just "get back together" like nothing ever happened. It takes time, patience and work if you are really sincere AND if you really meant it. It also takes being very brave and letting him know why you did "whatever" it was that you did to him. I always say....try and put yourself in someone else's shoes, and if you do....then you can think about all the things you want to hear so you can understand.
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reader, Blooregard +, writes (17 June 2007):
This sounds like an unstable relationship I'm sorry to say....maybe if you both took the time to calm down and act rationally rather than abusing eachother you could make a go of this.
Calmness is the answer.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2007): Clearly he is very confused about his feelings, he doesn't want to be with you, but he still wants to be part of your life which is why he is keeping in contact with you. I think that you have got to be strong and try and leave him behind he is unsure of what he wants. Tell him to leave you alone so you can have time to get over him. You shouldn't waste anymore time waiting for your ex to make up his mind, there is someone special out there who will treat you with the respect you deserve. I hope this is of some help.
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (17 June 2007):
 He obviously still cares for you, but i think you need to just come out and ask him why he is still making contact with you if he wanted out of the relationship and let him know that through the contact it is giving you false hope and that is not good for you if nothing is going to come of it.
Take care.xx.
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