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writes:I broke up with a guy 6 years ago. He was my first love and I can't let him go. I have tried etheric cutting of the cords, I have travelled, I have had children since and many other blessings in my life. The break up was sudden and unresolved for me, because we have never been able to have a reconciliation since. When I try to approach him, wanting to talk about the way things ended and why they ended he tells me im a unit and to get on with my life. My bestest friend and supportive partner tell me he isn't worth it if he won't even talk to me (some tell me to just get over it). My spiritual teacher tells me if others are cruel to us, then THEY are the cruel ones. She also says that unforgiveness is like carrying a potato in a lock-sealed bag around the neck, the longer you carry it around, its rotting away, when unforgiveness does the same inside you. I recently watched the movie Eat Pray Love and trying to move on from a divorce she is taught to send the person she's grieving over love and light and then - let it go. But all taken on board I still get around as if I'm carrying this heavy baggage from the past everywhere I go and only wish we could make peace between us so I can cherish the experience that was 'us' untainted by a nasty ending cut off by him with no explanation. I wish I could free myself and LOVE myself again, reaching out and grabbing life with confidence like I did before my heart break. Why is he so horrible? How do i forgive and LET GO?? I really want to cherish the shooting star that was our young love, but sometimes I wish I'd never met him!
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reader, Lulu_lol  +, writes (28 February 2011):
 You know...i faced something similar. And he was my 1st love as well.
I tried a lot...a LOT to understand why it did not work out...did everything to win him back.
Then i realised i was preventing myself from falling in love again.
I let go. I got rid of everything that reminded me of him. I told myself that our paths ended here...that his purpose in my life was over.
I fell in love again...with a wonderful man who was everything a girl could want.
Who says you can't forget? you can. Starting from now. Let go. You can't change what happened but you can be happy again.:)
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