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How do I explain our breakup without saying I'm gay?

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Question - (6 July 2012) 4 Answers - (Newest, 6 July 2012)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I just told my boyfriend of several years that I'm likely a lesbian.

He is a great guy, honestly. He seemed to take it well - we broke it off but agreed to be friends.

I still feel really guilty for doing it. I mean, I still love him as a person. I'm just not interested in having sex with him or marrying him.

And I don't even know if I really am lesbian; the most I've ever done with other women is kissing, yet all I ever think about having sex with is other women.

He is the first person that I told. No one else knows; which gives me the other issue of how to explain the break up without saying that I'm gay?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (6 July 2012):

Honeypie agony auntYou don't need to go into details. If anyone press you for more info just say you weren't compatible, which is the truth.

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (6 July 2012):

YouWish agony auntYou don't have to explain why you broke up with him. Just say your hearts were going in other directions. If your friends or family press you, just tell them that you wanted to date other people and that you both weren't feeling the chemistry with each other, but the breakup was amicable.

That's telling the truth.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (6 July 2012):

chigirl agony auntJust shrug and say it didn't work out. The spark was gone. It wasn't there. No chemistry. Or that you just woke up one day and wanted a change.

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (6 July 2012):

person12345 agony auntJust say you were incompatible. It's a private matter, no one has to get specifics. If they are being really nosy, you can just say "oh just the little things started to get to me and we were always bickering. We just decided we would be better off as friends. There was no one specific thing."

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