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writes:so this may sound really dumb and petty but I live with my boyfriend and I work days, I get up at 4:00 am and I get off at two then I have school until 10:00 at night. My boyfriend works from 1:00 pm until maybe 7 or 8. He makes good money and pays the bills but that's the extent of his responsibility. Everytime I come home from school there he is with his loser friend wasted and playing video games. I'm obviously exhausted and always super excited to see him because we don't get alot of time together. But everytime I come home to that all I want to do is go to bed. Then they are so loud and I'm so irritated that I can't sleep. I feel stupid for getting so mad because I know guys will be guys but he knows he's upsetting me and is like a drunken apologetic 3 year old that just got busted when I get home. Then when he starts acting like a little kid and apologizing it just infuriates me even more! It's a vicios cycle that I can't stop! Any advice?
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (5 March 2009):
 Sit down (when he's sober) and talk about this, set out guidelines to the amount of time he has friends over! You have to lay down the law here because you can't live like this!!! Tell him what he does, when he does it and ask him why he does it! Then tell him how you feel about everything and ask if he can empathise with your situation. Reassure him that you aren't nagging at him and that you understand he wants friends over, but make sure you tell him that you want to spend more time alone with him! X
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