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female
age
30-35,
*nderage and in love
writes:Hi aunts, I am 17 years old and my boyfriend is 19. We have been dating for almost 3 years now and I love him a lot. We both are normally very careful but I accidently missed a few birth control pills and since we are faithful to each other we didnt see a need to use condoms. I am now pregnant and neither of our families is being supportive. My parents think we should give the baby up and his family has told him that he has ruined his life. we both agree that we are keeping the baby. We want to move in with each and raise our child together, how can we show are parents that we want to take resposibility for our mistake and be good parents?
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reader, Coace** +, writes (6 May 2009):
Reading this q really touched my heart because just a few monthes ago I found myself in the same situation. I am now a 19 year old mother of a beautiful baby boy, and to be honest it was one of the best decisions of my life! I understand your parents concern for you, having a baby so young however, I think your making the right choice by having the baby and I think you should keep it. The only way to show your parents that you are a responsible person is by being a good parent yourself. The first step to doing that is making it clear to your parent that you want to keep and raise your baby. After all it is your child and in the end your choice. You need to have alot of strength and work hard for both you and your baby. Moving in with your boyfiend is a good idea but if your parent disagree you'll have to wait till your 18. Just work hard, because being a mother is the most challenging task you'll ever have. Your still pregnant and right now try to concentrate on keeping you and your baby healthy.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (6 May 2009):
 Basically both parents know from their personal experience that parenting can be very tough (it is rewarding too). No one can tell you what to do about the baby as that is an entirely personal decision for you both. As you seem committed to keeping the baby, you will only change the respective parents minds through them seeing what great parents you are in the years to come. To get a place of your own and raise a child comfortably you will need money and support. If your families cannot help out, you will probably need jobs, an education and people around you who can support you. There are lots of teenage mum's who make a wonderful job of bringing up a baby, but unfortunately you only hear about the terrible stories in the media. Talk to your health care provider and midwife as they maybe able to hook you into support services in your area for young parents.
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