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writes:I was dating the girl of my dreams for almost 4yrs and the wasn't a fairy tail ending as we had issues(losing a child) and then she got raped and that was the turning point......She started falling in love with her rapist and she had an affair with him behind my back and they were having unprotected sex that leaded to her getting HIV and infecting me!I cant believe she doing this to me as she is living with the guy and constantly fights with me and blames me for what happened. I know that sh8t happens but this is ridiculous because instead of dealing with this I'm suffering. Why is she acting like this?????is there an explanation for her behavior?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2011): Are you so sure she was originally raped at all? Maybe she just cheated on you and told you that she was raped as an excuse.
Either way she is an evil person for what she has done to you. Rape can cause trauma and mental problems but she knew right from wrong. She wronged you, and in about the worst possible way.
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reader, N91  +, writes (22 November 2011):
 Dude, forget about HER, worry more about the HIV!! Get to a specialist pronto!!
Good luck!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (22 November 2011):
 I'm sorry to hear that you have contracted HIV.... that is plenty of a problem in intself...
Meanwhile,... why bother even thinking about this girl who betrayed you? ... then put you in jeopardy?....
Get on with you life.... and good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2011): First off, let me say I am so sorry for your heartache and pain. This is tragic, you need to walk away from this before you lose anything else you value within yourself. The criminal needed to be charged and arrested. And She(your gf) needed counseling before she even had a possibility to contact her rapist. The whole situation with her being involved with her rapist is so sick and twisted, it should have NEVER gotten to that point. She is not the same person you fell in love with. There is not reasoning for her actions except for that, She has changed, life has changed her and she is not healing from it at all. Do not go down in this trauma like she is. You are alive and should live. Pray for her as I will pray for you, and move on!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2011): I think the first thing you should do is worry about the HIV.Have you been checked,seen a specialist etc?
If she's living with this man then leave them to it, she clearly needs professional help for a whole load of issues, its not your fault. Its her state of mind.
Its far too complex to be solved on here, she is very troubled,angry and needs to be persuaded to sort it out.Does she have a family to turn to,do they know her issues?
I hope you can distance yourself from all of this and sort out your own life, dealing with the loss of a baby and then the HIV, your girlfriends rape and now her anger - you need space away from her,no contact, to think and deal.
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reader, cry +, writes (22 November 2011):
 wow,um run get out while you still can and uh change your number too drama,drama,drama.dangerous.shes not worth it and the reason for her acting like this is because she likes hanging on to two guys at once the bad boy and the good boy.when everythings going bad in her life shell call you for support and a shoulder to cry on and youll probaly be there*...its your life ..do you see her by your side standing up for you in front of him.no she chooses him...move on
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