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51-59,
anonymous
writes:First a little background: I am happily married with 3 children. About 3 months ago a young woman started working in another department in my company. Due to her job, I see her several times a day, and over time I became quite friendly with her, and on occassion a little flirty.About two weeks ago, I went out to lunch with some co-workers and ended up giving this young lady a ride back to my office. She surprised me by telling me she was attracted to me, describing rather explicitly what she'd like to do with me.I was stunned. I told her I was happily married and that I had no ability to reciprocate her feelings. She seems to accept the reality of the situation, but she has clearly become depressed. I feel terrible. I am, at the very least, partially responsible for her current state. I would like suggestions on how I can support her w/o appearing to give her mixed signals.Thank you.
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (22 November 2007):
 The fact that she has expressed her feelings or rather what she thinks about doing with you in an explicit way shows she is exteremly forward, and she, knowing you are married, does not care about marriage, love and almost only after sex. Or she is so stupid that she thinks she can have you by offering interesting sex.
Not only by behaving flirtious but also buy giving her a ride -alone-you encouraged her but not to that extent. Why and what kind of support does she need and why do you have to provide her this support thing?
She is not appearently a kind of girly who will interpret your support in any other manner than she already displayed.
I am not sure you know what you are doing. Give up this support idea even if this takes a form of professional support. As you tend to meet her more even for putative professional office reasons it will mean flirting both to you and to her and to me...
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reader, shania  +, writes (22 November 2007):
 Well i feel sorry if she's feeling depressed but its hardly your fault. Your a happily married man,end of. You dont need to justify yourself and your not responsible for her happiness. What might happen is if you show a bit of kindness she could take it the wrong way and think your leading her on,even though your intentions are honourable.
If i was you,i would suggest to her,that she see's a doctor, because depression can get worse and she might need medication in the short term. Dont get too involved because it might back fire.
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