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writes:I have been going out with my boyfriend for about 3 months. I really love him. We really click, we've got lots in common, we find the same things funny, we find each other hot, we treat each other lovingly... our relationship is brilliant.However, I have this really annoying problem. It's like... I can't seem to just care about one guy at once. I would never, ever cheat on my boyfriend because the last thing I want is to hurt him. But I know a few other guys, and I really do care about them, not like - "I WANT LOTS OF SEX" - but they're great. It's more romantic feelings than sexual. I know some of them find me attractive, but obviously none of us would do anything because of my boyfriend. But it makes me feel really guilty... sometimes I'll just be lying there with him, and I start crying because I feel so bad and I love him so much. He deserves a girlfriend who doesn't want multiple boyfriends!What can I do? I'm not gonna break up with him for the sake of whoring myself out to other guys. But should I be in a long-term relationship at all? I'm only 17. Am I just lousy at commitment? I really do care about my boyfriend. That's why I'm asking this question. Reply to this Question
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reader, ItsEmma  +, writes (31 August 2008):
 I'm sorry you shed tears over this. ): I used to be like that, too. Eh. I blamed it on hormones. Maybe you just need to mature a bit before you get into such a serious relationship like that. I swore off dating for a year and a half, and I got over my problem! (:Best of luck!~Emma
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (31 August 2008):
 I wouldn't say you are a bad person. I would say you actually don't know what you want from a relationship and this is why you have feelings for so many people. Most of your questions you can only answer yourself to be honest because there is no 'right' or 'wrong' answer there is just a 'right' and 'wrong' answer for yourself. I suggest that you start a diary or journal of some kind to codify your feelings and in the process actually start working them out. Good luck :)
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