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writes: An ex bf of mine who is a real nasty piece of work has recently taken to playing small mind games while I'm at college. It's nothing massive but just small things. He's taken to deliberately walking past me and is constantly in and around places I spend a lot of time. I know he has no reason to be there as he isn't doing that subject. This is really messing with me and above all is incredibly off putting. He never says anything but often gives me looks that are meant to mess with me. How can I stop these affecting me and most of all how can I beat him at his own games without speaking to him directly ? Reply to this Question
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (20 September 2011):
 fi the tree's suggestion is evil, but I kinda like it. Depends if you wanna take the high road or the low road... either one could be effective.
Maybe have a guy friend hang around you WHILST wearing sunglasses AND ignoring him..?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2011): You simply ignore him.
He's only doing this because he knows it gets under your skin because of your body language and the way you react every time he does it.
If you see him, don't allow your expression to change. Casually avert your gaze and don't look at him again. He'll stop soon enough.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (19 September 2011):
 Oh revenge is sweet!!! Rope a male friend into going everywhere with you and holding your hand, that ought to stop him in his tracks!!!
I like the idea of telling as many people as possible that he's stalking you due to mental issues ha ha!!
If he's in the same place you are (for example the library or canteen) see if you can sit/stand with your back to him so you don't have to look at him. If he moves into your eyeline, move yourself so he is out of your eyeline. Simples!!! *squeak*
Best of luck :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 September 2011):
 dang tisha beat me to my suggestion... Sunglasses
and file a notice with the police to tell them that you are being stalked...
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (19 September 2011):
 I'd start wearing sunglasses that don't allow him to see your eyes. Tell your friends that your ex seems to be stalking you as he may have some sort of mental problem that will escalate his behavior. Change up your routine so that you aren't predictable and make sure you are with people when you walking from place to place.
I'd consider telling a teacher or the school counselor about the intrusive and odd behavior he's exhibiting, so that someone else is aware of it and they can confront him if he's somewhere he's not supposed to be.
Basically, minimize your exposure to him and maximize the number of people who know that he is stalking you. That's disturbingly creepy and should be taken seriously. Don't turn it into a game and don't try to make contact or retaliate in any way. Getting him labeled as a stalker should be sufficient 'revenge' or games-playing for you.
Good luck, and be careful.
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