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female
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26-29,
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writes:I am going away for ten days for a German exchange, however my boyfriend of a year is not. Instead he is staying at school. He is very close to his ex-girlfriend, and she will be there for the ten days. His ex and I used to be really good friends until she decided she wanted him back, and ever since then I have had nothing but hatred towards her, due to the feelings of betrayal. I am really worried about going away.How can I stop feeling worried and scared and actually look foreward to this trip? :/
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (19 March 2012):
 You have to trust him.
That is the bottom line in this question. Without trust, there is no relationship.
Trips like this do not come along very often, and it would be such a shame to ruin the experience because you are worrying what is happening back home. I know you feel jealous and worried, I think we have all been there at some point.
It is only TEN days tho, its not like you are going away for months. Its only a week and a bit! If you cannot trust your boyfriend to do the right thing and not cheat, then really is he the boy you should be dating?
If he did cheat, then you would know that he wasn't worth your time anyway! You are worth far more than that!
Have trust in your boyfriend, if he is a decent boy, then you have nothing to fear.
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reader, katiekate  +, writes (19 March 2012):
 You are young, and it sounds like you are about to have a great adventure! My advice is to focus on the life experiences you will be gaining by taking this trip, and don't focus on your boyfriend or his ex. You probably won't understand this now because of your age, but guys (very often) will come and go. Who knows if you and this guy will be together forever? But what's certain is that you are about to experience something that I would love to travel back in time to experience! I spent my teen years focused on boys instead of focusing on myself, and I regret it.
Besides, if your boyfriend would cheat on you or leave you for an ex (or any other girl) after 10 days of you being away, then clearly, he is not the right guy, so good riddance! Have fun and focus on YOUR life, not his! :)
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