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36-40,
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writes:Ive bin frends with this guy for almost a yr now and at 1st tht was only how I thought of him, but a few mnths ago I started getting feelings for him. I would tease him and stuff, being flirty but never actually say it, so I think he probably didn know how I felt. Now he has a gfriend, which is really upsetting, although I didnt say tht to him. How can I stop feeling so depresed about it? Also since he got a gfriend I feel shunted like he never has time for me. I don't think I can just say this to him outright, because we never really talk about serious stuff, just messing around most of the time.
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reader, q2pi +, writes (7 June 2008):
q2pi is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everybody. It still feels very fresh, so even when I spend time with other frends, Im thinking abt it. I do want him 2 b happy, so I wouldnt dream of trying 2 mess it up 4 him atm. Its just so hard 2 take my mind of it.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (6 June 2008):
 Well, if you weren't at a point in your relationship where you could be straightforward before, and you didn't try to express your feeling then, I think the thing that you should do, is to bow out gracefully. You did have your chance, you just missed your window of opportunity. If you are his friend, you will want him to be happy. If you can't be just a friend, you should probably try to extricate yourself from the whole situation. You don't know if this is going to be a permant relationship for him or not, but you certainly don't want to be the cause of any misunderstanding between them either. If you ever wonder if a relationship is proper or has come about the "right" way, try to phrase it into a story that you would you wuld want to repeat to your future children. Would you be proud of your actions?
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