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writes:So I just graduated high school ,but there was this sophmore in my spanish class. I always thought she was cute and I felt like she would be different from the girls I've talked to recently. The problem is I never talked to her and I really think she would've been good for me. My question is should I just give up the idea seeing as she'll still be in high school and I'll be starting college? If not what are some ways I can start talking to her? Any advice is a appreciated . Don't be hesitant to speak your mind, thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (12 June 2015):
 I think you should let this little fantasy go for now.
1. You don't know her AT ALL - you only have some idea of her in your head.
2. She is 15/16 so ABSOLUTELY not ready for a serious mature relationship. And certainly not a LDR.
3. College will provide AMPLE opportunity for you to me girls YOUR own age.
She will head of to college NEXT year, who knows maybe you will bump into her when you are BOTH a little older and a little wiser.
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reader, empty-1 +, writes (12 June 2015):
I would advise you to be cautious. While the difference of two years doesn't seem like a big deal to you, the law doesn't agree. Even if the age of consent is less than 18 in your state, most states have a statutory rape clause that boils down to this:
If a male and a female enter in to sexual union while the male is over the age of 18 and the female is under the age of 18, the male is guilty of sexual assault.
In about half of the states with such a law, it is actually gender neutral, in the other half, it's explicitly only a man that can be "guilty".
The reason I open with this factor is because relationships have this weird pattern of leading to sex. Even if it's not the reason you're with someone, they have a tendency to go there sooner or later. If things do get sexual, and then the relationship sours you can find yourself in real trouble of the kind that can follow you for the REST OF YOUR LIFE.
As far as starting to talk to her - you have me confused. If you've not really even exchanged words with her yet, how the heck could you know she'd be good for you? Please don't tell me its because of her appearance, because there's going to be plenty of good looking girls at college.
Are you still a senior? Is the school year out yet where you live? Can you bump in to her at school still? Where we live there's a week left to school, which would mean its not too late.
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