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writes:My boyfriend loves to give me oral but I have a really hard time relaxing so that I can climax. How do I relax my body so I can reach a orgasm?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (24 January 2012):
 Just lay back, spread and surrender. He would not go there if he did not want to please you.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 January 2012):
 Breathing. Control your breath, breathe faster. Or that's what my ex told me and he's the only one who's ever managed to make me orgasm through oral alone. He put a pillow under my bum, and told me to breathe faster. It worked, so what can I say?
But what also worked was that he told me what to do, he took control, and he told me to lay down, reminded me to breathe faster when I got lost in the moment and forgot. He didn't make me wonder if he was uncomfortable, and he didn't want me to think about how much time passed by either. He wanted this, he had googled how to make me get there (the breathing and the pillow under my bum), and he was determined to make it happen.
Knwoing he was in full control of the situation, and just letting him roam free and do what he wanted to do with me, was apparently what I needed to relax. He took all pressure off me and took control over the situation. I wasn't allowed to speak, and I had to remember my breathing, then he did the rest.
It did take time though. It took him around 20-40 minutes to get me there, after over a year of being in a relationship and testing and trying thing out.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (23 January 2012):
 If you're concerned about the way you smell or taste, you should take a shower or bath beforehand so you can push that thought out of your mind. Some women find it helpful to put a blanket over their knees or something so they don't have the visual and can not have to think so directly about someone being there, and more on the feelings and sensations. You also just have to do it quite a few times. The more you do it, the more comfortable you'll get. There's really nothing we can just say on here or some magic trick other women know. You've just got to keep doing it, try to breathe and relax, and you'll get there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2012): All I can say is just don't be nervous, your boyfriend obviously loves giving it to you, and if he didn't then he wouldn't do it.
Just lay back, close your eyes and then see where it takes you...
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reader, happy140 +, writes (23 January 2012):
 My wife has a litle trick since this is such a tense situation anyway-find a position thats confortable. Some like it on thier back, some "doggy" style and still others with their legs open laying on their side. Find a place in your mind that makes you understand how much he wants to pleasure you, and relize how good it feels. Think of hime touching you or making love to you and just enjoy the feeling. My wife NEVER goes into it for the orgasm but rather the feeling. If you relax like and just enjoy the feeling relizing its ok not to orgasm it comes easier. Even as a man I enjoy oral for the feeling not always the orgasm-try to relax and let the feeling and the sight and thought of what your lover is doing bring you to the place you need to be to orgasm. Remember not ALL women orgasm that way although many do. Also as we get older it gets a little more difficulct because of all the days stress but the feeling of it never deminishes. Just enjoy trying to figure out what that tongue is going to do next and relax and don't try to orgasm let it find you.
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