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writes:I am going through a depression, which i am fighting it every day. I love my bloke but i just dont want to have sex, my sex drive has gone completely and we have only been married months. I need to go to the doctors about the depression but how do i go about getting our sex life back on track? All advice listened to.Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2008): Obviously you need to speak to somebody about the depression, but I do agree with the other posters that exercise is a great helper. On the sex drive side, I can relate to this. Hubby and I probably had sex about once a fortnight. I hated it but he secretly used porn which annoyed me. Recently he went through a mid life crisis and almost left but cited sex as a reason. He started to communicate and met another woman. I thought I am not giving up on almost 20 years of marriage and threw myself into overdrive. I had my haircut and my nails, I needed to make myself feel better. I am loosing weight. We flirt constantly via text during the day and cant wait to see each other at night. Send sexy messages, it really does pick you up. our sex life is now around twice a day (during the week). We are both loving it and feel totally renewed. Give it a try!
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reader, love-him +, writes (28 February 2008):
 HEY!!
I agree with TISHA1, exercise is the !! BEST !! way to recover from depression! :)
GOOD LUCK!! Feel free to mail me at any time x x
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (28 February 2008):
 One initial suggestion: start exercising! You could join a gym, but there lots of ways to exercise. I personally like to power walk rather than run. Do some warm ups before heading out at a nice brisk pace, doing laps around the local park. If you pass a park bench you can stop and do some push-ups on it, or sit-ups. Don't worry about how you look to other people--they are most likely thinking 'good for you!' My husband & I do this together in the mornings to give each other encouragement.
If the weather is really awful, I stay in and do a Pilates video. I love Pilates because it's low stress on the joints and wonderful for strengthening your core muscles.
I'm sure the other aunts/uncles will chime in with more suggestions, but that was the first one off the top of my head. It helps keep me feeling good about myself which I think is key to libido!
Good luck!
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