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writes:I wanna make sure a guy I know is in love with me (they told me he was). and also, he seems very outgoing with other people but me, so what is going on , does he like me or not? how can i make sure without asking him out? how can i make him to open up to me? and do opposites attract? Reply to this Question
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (7 April 2007):
 It's way too soon to be talking about love. Love is something that will grow as you get to know each other when you are dating and see one another. It's not something that comes free just from looking at someone. At least not usually.
One or the other of you has to take the first step and ask the other out. Since you seem to be the one who has the emotional investment at this point, you are the most likely candidate. Yes, it's risky. You might get hurt, especially if he says "no". But sooner or later one of you has to take that step or you'll never get together.
So go for it. If "they" are right, he'll be open to the idea. Then you can get into a relationship, see how well suited you are to one another, and see if your love really does bloom with this guy.
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reader, ask paige  +, writes (6 April 2007):
 hey chick i have to say i have to say this situation you are in is pretty much exactly the same thing i went through except thisguy was outgoing with me and the same way he was with his mates and then in the end i ended up heartbroken so how people are with you it dosnt neccesarily show what they are feeling on the inside, and i think that you can never actually know if someone loves you or not even if they tell you because they could be lying but i agree with dr psych you only live once so you should do it belive me it feels so good when you get it off your chest yes it is scary it was for me but at the end of the day i you dont ask him you will wonder for a long time if he would have said yes or no. good luck hun just remeber to be yourself and you will be fine xx
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (6 April 2007):
 I don't think this guy loves you. You are not in a relationship with him at the moment and true love is fostered in a personal relationship where each person knows each other well and accepts them (some say unconditionally). What you are experiencing is a guy who may have a crush on you and maybe he is a bit shy around you. This could be the foundation for a loving relationship - if you like him then you should take the time to get to know him. Don't listen to gossip and rumour...life is short and if you like him and he likes you then go for it! Asking someone for a date can be daunting though, so maybe you should befriend him first...go out socially in a group and see how things go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2007): vero05, first, let me make a few observations. You say, ("they told me he was"). Who is "they" and what exactly did they tell you? Chums may say many things that cannot be verified. You say he is very outgoing round others, but not with you. Well, does he have a reason to be outgoing with you? Are you "outgoing" with him? Perhaps he doesn't know what your feelings are. And let's be careful at this point with the word, "love". Love is something much deeper than "does he like me". Well, you won't know if he "likes" you or not unless you talk to him. So, if he is "talk shy" around you, perhaps he is wondering the same thing you are wondering. Sometimes girls have to make the first move on conversation. Nothing wrong with that, unless you come on too strong. That can put guys (blokes) off. Start with just a friendly hello, and "how ya doin'?" (or whatever the Aussie equivalent is. lol). If he runs away, (he probably won't), you might consider writing him off. Simple starters are usually the best. But don't, don't... stare into his eyes and say, "Oh, God, I love you so much"! I can assure you, he WILL run. Best wishes. Tom
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reader, Tinalishus +, writes (6 April 2007):
 Hey,I see what you mean, but if you like this guy enough to go as far as saying you love him then you should trust what he says. As for being out going towards others and not you, maybe he's shy to show you that side of him, because its the soppy side you fell for. Guys don't always know how to cope in relationships and he's probably just as unsure about you loveing him as you are about him love you!Talk to him, i know he's a guy but he's human too!!Good luck x
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reader, ruth2203 +, writes (6 April 2007):
course opposite attract! i always ask my firend to ask him or get my friend to ask his friend . guys show feelings differently from girls as girls are alot more intouch with thier feelings! i hoped i helped im not good with a guys mind
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