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30-35,
*nfinishedSymphony
writes:Ok let me break this down.1) Casually dated this guy 3 months ago. Was very brief. He was not only older than me by 6 years; it was pretty evident he has always had a stern and mature approach to relationships in the sense that he wants to settle down...Immediately.2)I on the other hand (not immature)...I want to have alot of experience under my arm when it comes to men and dating. Settling down isn't my top priority for sure.3) I told him after only 3 days of dating, I wanted to stop dating him- I was honest with him. I wasn't looking for a relationship whereas he was. Additionally, I had noticed he is very self-conscious, paranoid, un-experienced when it comes to dating/relationships/sex, intense and lacks confidence completely. Just not for me at the end of the day.4) He was very upset. I didn't expect him to be that upset. Its not like we were ever in a relationship and I had only seen him 4 times in total. I constantly had to repeat my reasons for it not working and for some reason he was sure that it was because he dissapointed me? (paranoia again).5)Ok. Its been 2 to 3 months since then. He is constantly sending me videos on the internet (he admitted to me he used to do that to try and impress me), he asks again and again why i ended it...I'm so tired of bringing up something which isn't overcomplicated. It just didn't work, you know? He pleads with me to be friends with him...then he brings it up again...then he invites me round to his town??! I've told him several times I doubt we could be friends at the moment as it would be awkward purely for the fact i know he has feelings for me and he couldnt settle for friendship.6) So what do I do? What more can I possibly tell him? Why is he telling me I make no sense, when I do? I don't want to hurt him.
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reader, Auntie Jez  +, writes (24 February 2009):
Sorry to hear this problem , again I agree with the others. You must completely block him out of your life as the slightest sign from you he will see as encouragement. I think there is something very immature about his behaviour and you were right to finish with him.I think you must be cruel to be kind, and if he really does not take the hint contact the police and get some advice.Hope it goes well for you
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reader, Kepi +, writes (24 February 2009):
 Ignore him, block him, you wanna finish with him so finish, every time you talk to him/reply to him he sees that there's a 'chance' you might change your mind.He sounds like he's obsessed and to become this way after so few dates shows that he is best to be avoided completely. What would happen if you find another guy? Its possible that he could take this very badly, so just completely remove him from your life. Then if all else fails, do as satindesire suggests go to the police, but only use this as a last resort.
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