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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I run a small event group that goes out and explores different attractions around the city. I have a few regular attendees... one of which I am quite attracted to. We just get along so well, so easily.Long story short, I would really like to have one on one time with this guy, have date, or otherwise get to know him better. However I have two issues.The first issue being that I dont want him, or anyone else in the group, to feel uncomfortable. So I don't flirt with him, and I try not to give him anymore attention than anyone else, although I do tend to talk to him more and he's a talkative person anyway, so its not obvious.And because I don't flirt or give him special attention, I just don't know how to hint that I am attracted to him without it being... awkward.I just can't stop thinking about him and its driving me nuts! But I don't want to compromise my event group because of this attraction...Would love some advice or ideas... what can I do to hint to him that I am wildly attracted to him? As a female, making the first move, especially in this case, is tricky and I don't want to seem desperate, weird, or creepy...Or, should I just let it go and see him as just another attendee in my group?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (12 September 2015):
 Guys are worried about looking desperate and creepy too. Attraction is a subtle thing. You feel it but are not too sure about it. there's a suspense which makes it exciting. If you announce it, it's awkward and it pressures him to feel the same way too. Only reveal attraction when he reciprocates attention, conversation but do it gradually. You can ask him to talk to you after an event, then ask him to go to coffee with you. See if you can have a decent conversation with him, and where his head is at. If he shows interest in dating, then tell him your concerns about the group. I wondering what your professional relationship is. there are regular attendees who explore the city? Who does that?
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (12 September 2015):
 Your are either the hostess with the most'est and thats what makes him a regular or maybe he comes back because he fancies you a little? once you are coming to and end with the group why not just casually mention that you are going to grab a quick cup of coffee and ask if he would like to join you. People ask people for coffee all the time so it shouldn't pose that much awkwardness or lustful suspicion. Providing that you don't go all gar gar when you ask. if he say no then leave it with a "no worries…i'll see you next time then, yeah?"
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