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writes: i dont know what to do.I have been with my b/f for over 2 years and i think i have changed since meeting him. He is my first serious relationship so i never really got attached to a guy before. But for a long time now--i found myself thinking about him constantly and looking at my cell to see if he has called..its like--i really won't go a couple of hours without thinking of him at all..whereas--i think my b/f does go on with his day without constantly thinking of me.I feel this anxious feeling if i havent spoken to him for 5 hours or maybe even a little less. My mood seems to have changed with family--maybe because if him and i have problem it affects everything else around me..even though i try to pretend things are ok most of the time...but it does seem i am more moody now or maybe not as happy when apart from him.I see him 3-4 nights a week which means we have days and nights apart..he seems fine with it which also makes me mad because i tend to miss him more i think and sometimes just feel like i am waiting for the usual days i see him and only seem to get really truly excited on those days.I really don't know whats wrong or how to change or how to make myself less attached. When we have a bad fight where we dont talk all day or even 2 days--i feel completely horrible and usually just wind up in bed early to sleep so i dont have to think about it or wait for his call. I also am a jealous girl--worried if he talking to other girls etc etc
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reader, kit_e_kat  +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Hey well snap i'm in a similar situation. At the moment i'm not with the love of my life, we are apart for a month because of holidays and commitments we have been forced to make. i haven't been with him for the past 2 and a half weeks and i won't be with him for another week and a half. It's driving us both crazy ans i miss him terribly. Well the way i manage to get through it is to try and keep myself busy during the day then call him at night and we talk together before we go to bed. The most important thing is to talk about it you have been in this relationship a long time and things should be serious on his part also by now. Maybe he does occupy himself throughout the day but i doubt he forgets about you if he loves you. You have to explain your advancing feelings otherwise things might get worse on your part.
Also i can relate to the jealousy, i am usually content with my looks but i hate it when other girls are in his life, its made worse that he has had only two other relationships and he is close friends with them both. I trust him completely, but i don't trust the women. Talk to him about that too, as soon as i talked to my guy about it he told me straight away that i was stupid he eventold me why things had gone sour between his past relationships, it made me feel loads better even though it does play in my mind still. It just shows that you do have deep feelings for him. All you need to do is talk to him about it often hearing it from him reminds you that you are his amazing girlfriend and he wouldn't look twice at another woman
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reader, penta  +, writes (11 July 2007):
 It's important that you learn to trust him. If you don't, you could drive him away. Jealousy is seriously unattractive. If he's not doing anything to make you suspicious (and just talking to another girl or having a night without you does not count) then you need to get over it.
Get busy. Get a hobby. Take a class (maybe a dance class). Anything. Find something to fill the time that he's gone. If you're not idle, you won't have the time to be jealous. If you happen to find something you enjoy and are good at, the confidence to know that he loves you for who you are may keep you from being jealous at all.
Good luck.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (11 July 2007):
 It's pretty obvious that you're insecure about him. You should talk to him to clear any doubts you may have. However, if you can see him 3-4 times a week, I think you should be sure he does love you and is committed to you.
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