dear cupid,this isn't a relationship question, but i figured that it wouldn't hurt to take a chance on someone being able to provide me an answer here. anyways...my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend hurt him really badly--she cheated on him multiple times and was just generally horrible. over the summer, she miscarried their baby boy (she was about four months pregnant). when it first happened, he kind of showed that he was upset, but after that, he wouldn't really talk about it. in addition to that, he's not really happy at his job and hasn't been for a while.after the miscarriage, his family and i just thought he was okayy...but now, we can all see that he's most definitely NOT. he hasn't been really happy for the past couple months or so, and we think that that's a pretty big contributor to it (his mom also thinks that his ex-girlfriend's antics have something to do with it, too). it's been affecting our relationship, and his mom said he's not even open with her or anybody else in his family. he won't really talk to any of his friends, either, including his roommate.i finally managed to get him to be at least a little bit open with me this morning, and he told me that nothing makes him happy anymore and that nothing is fun to him anymore. he said that really, the only time he's happy is when he has a beer in his hand. i talked to his mom today, too, and she said that she and the family are planning on trying to step in and have kind of like an "intervention" or something like that. she actually seems pretty confident that it's going to work; one of the last things she said to me was, "we're gonna fix him."this whole thing has been really hard on me. i've watched him go from an upbeat, happy-go-lucky guy to some withdrawn, sullen guy that i hardly even recognize anymore. i don't know about everybody else, but i don't remember seeing him smile at all over the past two months or so. i absolutely hate it, and i really hope that his mother is right when she thinks that we can "fix him."here lately, i've been thinking about how there are other people out there who are going through similar ordeals. and i've decided that i would really like to do something to help people like that. i guess the most obvious option is to become a psychology major, but i really don't want to do that, because in may, i will receive my degree in journalism, and i really don't want to stop doing that and start all over with something new this late in the game.what i would like to do is find some way to help these people as a journalist. i've always tried to use writing as a way of inspiring and helping people in the past, but now, i want to specifically help those who are depressed (as well as their loved ones). do you have any ideas on how i could make that part of my journalism career without having to give it up and go to psychology??? i know this is kind of a weird question, but i really hope that someone can help me. any attempts are GREATLY appreciated. ")
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reader, idoneitagain +, writes (19 October 2011):A few things come to mind.
First, rather than think of it in terms of either/or, you can do both. You can follow a career in journalism and start to read about areas of psychology that interest you, or do some courses in psychology. If you take a genuine interest, you can take things further based on how much interest you have.
You can help people by writing articles and news stories that affect people who suffer from depression. You could research in that area and write a book. You could get your journalism career going and start to volunteer at a place which supports people who suffer from depression, as a way of helping and also learning. As time goes on, lots of options will present themselves as possibilities if you are interested in them.
When trying to help others, remember it is good to keep in mind the difficulties you are going through and think of ways you can take care of yourself and let other help you too.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 October 2011):The only thing I can think of is writing for medical magazines, or writing for health pages in newspapers? Maybe you should try researching medical magazines and newspapers that have medical and health pages. See what you can find there.
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