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*akerm
writes:ive tried having sex with my girlfriend twice now and it wont go in. she says she is too tense and that she needs to relax more. how can i help her relax more? Reply to this Question
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reader, blake_carter +, writes (10 August 2009):
foreplay finger her play with the clit eat her out do not try to put it in till she is good and wet and if thats a prob pic up some lub
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reader, Brenna36 +, writes (3 August 2009):
 Give her a good massage, and eat her out(only if she is comfortable with it though, talk to her about doing this before hand though). I have this same problem with my boyfriend, its not easy to over come. When she tenses up rub her clit and tell her to relax and sound loving to her. Remind her of why your having sex(how you love her, how she is gorgeous, ect.) You need to get her used to fingers before you go on to sex though.
Email me if you have any questions further.. Hope this was helpful.
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reader, Legioness  +, writes (3 August 2009):
 Set the scene; a bit of romance, candles, music etc.
foreplay; not to be rushed. Lots of kissing, caressing, massage etc.
then get to work on the more intimate stuff- touching, licking, stroking, teasing.
hopefully that'll help get her in the perfect relaxed and ready zone ;)
good luck and have fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009): She can't relax because she is afraid of getting pregnant or fear of getting hurt. I would give her time, don't rush, she may not be ready for that. You both might be young.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009): If it "won't go in", she isn't "wet" enough for it too. You need to perform enough foreplay for that to happen. Try your finger, and if you're comfortable enough with it, go down on her...add some moisture. Its not a matter of "relaxing". Good luck.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (3 August 2009):
 Or use your tongue first. That generally gets things loosened up.
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