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writes:I felt really quite proud. I had got the courage to ask out a girl i fancied. I got rejected (she already had a bf) but i don't really mind. At least i had tried and i can be happy that i had the courage (i am actually quite shy so big achievement). However, as it inevitably did, other people got to hear about this. I thought that they would just respect my decision to ask her out and even (i hoped) respected me more for my bravery. However, to my great suprise, they now make fun of me behind my back! They laugh at me and call me names. I know they are just being mean and my friends say they are pathetic but it still really gets to me. At the moment i am at i real low and all my previous proud feeling has gone. How can i get over this period or how can i just ignore it? Any ideas or advice would be great. As many responses or ideas as possible please. thx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): thanks ever so much for your help, it has been really useful. I feel better alreeady! Honestly thanks to everyone who answered it was a great help. I am no longer feeling bad and i am proud once again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): Well, with sugar-coated illusions aside [wink], what you did was grand. I totally know how you feel though. Nothing to do with rejection mind you, but the same altogether. Especially when you see those same people every weekday at school. Sucks big time. I'll just have to point out that people like that usually lack good solid friendship and have lower self-esteem. What you did was really great. A lot braver than I was back in high school. Instead of being rejected, I rejected someone and people started laughing and making fun of me. Yeah, weird eh? [laughs] Mhm, totally eventually got to me and hated high school even more, but the past is passed.
To get over this period, all you can really do is either try to ignore it and let things dilute over time, or find yourself a new goal and work on that. This new goal doesn't necessarily have to be another girl. It could very well be an activity or club, etc.
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (2 November 2007):
 Good for you. Your friends may be laughing now but when you have a date for the big dance because you've had all this experience don't be surprised if they all come running to you to find out how you did it. If you are really shy then well done lad.
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reader, onkybonx  +, writes (1 November 2007):
 i think between yourself and your friends you've already gotten the answer to your question...these ppl are clearly just jealous of you being proud enough to take a chance and ask this girl out...the only way they can make themselves feel better about not having the guts to do it themselves is you treat you like what you did is some how worth of making fun of...when in fact that couldn't be more worng...you took a chance, and so it didn't work out, you still stood up and put your neck on the line for something you wanted, with the guts to do that i really don't think you even need to worry about these idiots, you;ve clearly got an awful lot of inner strength and for lack of a better word..balls! so just ignore them, remind yourself they are cowards and you are not...and be proud of yourself you deserve to be!
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reader, peaches83 +, writes (1 November 2007):
 your friends are right these people that are making fun are just been pathetic. Maybe they are the insicure ones becasue they never had the guts to aks her out!
Well done for taking that step and having the courage. I know that it can be hard to get knocked back but be strong. You can to terms with it when she said no and respected her desicion.
As for the people that are taking the mick, ignore them they really are not worth the time or your feelings. In time there will be that one girl that you ask out that will say yes!!! Watch their faces when it come to that and you will realise what im saying.
Be strong and keep trying you will get there.
GOOD LUCK
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): You being in the age group you're in tells me why this is happening. The kids that are making fun of you are only doing so out of immaturity. If they say anything to you about it, just say "at least I had the balls to ask her" And leave it at that. Don't act like it is really getting under your skin, as that will just drive them on to do it more. I honestly think you should be damned proud for asking her. And the fact that you felt good about it before those kids started their rude behavior just shows to me even more that you are mature, and that you understand things more than your peers. Hey, in the long run, your attitude will get you ahead in life. Don't let anyone stop you from going after what you want & being proud of yourself. And don't let these fools get you down. It will pass when they see it doesn't bother you, and they find someone else to pick on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): Good lad
If you dont ask you'll never know, move on and she'll (the girl of your dreams) appear when you least expect it. You have plenty of time, have some fun.
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