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writes:Hello i am an 18 year old guy and the girl i like is 17. We have known each other for 3 years and became instant friends when we first met.The next year we started dating because things got romantic and we ended up dating for a year. Things were really good and we never fought once and were with each other whenever possible [we didnt do sexual things]. i loved her very much all the time and she loved me the same.I ended the relationship about 7 months ago because she cheated on me for a week with a guy who left her for another girl. Our breakup was really bad and we hated each other for like 4 months but since then ive tried to make things better between us because i really missed her.We are back to talking but we never have time alone anymore because of her busy schedule after school so its hard to tell if she still has feelings like i do. i text her sometimes because she will never text me first but we dont talk about anything serious because its more of a face to face thing, but we still talk friendly and sometimes flirt through it..What i want is for her to see that i really do care for her and would love to haver her back and show her that i am the right guy for her because of how strong our relationship was and i never felt like this for any other girl. but idk how to since we never have time together except 1st period study hall and we sit at the same table but so do her friends and she mostly talks to them so theres not really any privacy.. help? ):
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys those are good ideas and advice :) And back when we broke up she said the reason she cheated was because i started to take our love for granted and not treating her as i should have, which was true. I was still so mad about her cheating though that i didnt decide to change until i realised how much i missed her and loved her.
I am determined to make her mine again and treat her the way she should be treated. I really feel like we could go back to how we were. thanks again :)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 December 2010):
 Ok first off you need to get to the bottom of the issue on why she cheated on you...you need to ask her even if it is through texts. She obviously felt there was something missing in your relationship and that is why she cheated and you need to find out what that was and work on those issues.
When that is done, ask her would she like to hang out with you some evening, set a date and tell her that you still care for her and find out how she feels and take it from there.
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reader, 0000BraveHeart0000  +, writes (2 December 2010):
I understand how you feel. If it is your first love, breaking up is really hard. There is nothing like your first love. Even though she cheated on you, I still think you can give her one more chance. The way I see it, she was 17 at the time which is pretty young so that when you two broke up, she was left in a vulnerable state and would quickly run to the next guy for comfort and closure.
The problem at hand is to find time to express your love. She has a busy schedule but not everyday she would be tied up I am sure. You did mention your families get along? Why not pay her a visit( at her home), there you would not only get to meet friendly faces (parents,bros, sis) but you would get to set things right.
Also, when you guys are not doing school work such as sports days, rallys, after exams...I dunno. Go out and have an icecream or pizza ...just as friends and discuss some matters. Tell her how much you miss and love her and hear her side of the story. If it works out then look at the pass, the things that you guys did wrong and try to improve on it.
GOOD LUCK!!!
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