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writes:For the past 3 months me and this guy have been getting really close, he told me he started falling for me in the first month and I've never had a relationship before so I said to him I don't know what I want because I've never done this , I just need time. so he was that's fine well remain friends which we did, still went out for drinks and food. then I started getting feelings for him and I told him that and he practically said no, he's just got over his but I do know he's been talking to a girl but telling me he feels sorry for her and that they're friends which is fine, but I thought this is what he would of wanted? it can't take a couple weeks to get over someone completely!!? so the past couple of days ago we were texting and I sent him a pic and we were talking dirty through text, then he went out the nights after and posting pics up of this new girl and ignoring my texts so I'm getting wound up. 3 of my friends told me to block him on all social media which I have done now just to get him out of sight , but I haven't blocked his number. what do I do? do I text him how I feel but what do I say without being beggy ? how can I deal with this rejection? or shall I just block his number? thanks X
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (26 March 2016):
 Yes, you block him.
And in the future give a guy a chance. Go on a few dates BEFORE you reject him (and yes you DID reject him first). If you aren't sure you are ready for a relationship, that is one thing. But if you aren't ready or really unsure, then WHY date? Guys are not your guinea pigs.
If by 3rd date you aren't "feeling" it, then tell him and stop seeing him.
OFFERING to be "friends" is not some nice gesture, even if YOU think it is. It's basically saying to the other person YOU aren't good enough to date, but OK to hang out with.
And STOP with sending dirty pics and text. It's NOT going to make a guy forget the rejection. Trying to "entice" him with sex, sexual innuendos and hints is NOT how to get a guy to "like" you.
It's OK to want to go slow. But not know what you want makes it seems like you are trying to be "nice" instead of saying, no thanks.
So in short... LEARN from this experience.
Next time, just tell the guy that you want to go slow has you have no relationship experience. Instead of being vague.
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reader, Ciar  + ♥, writes (26 March 2016):
 However nicely you put it and regardless of how valid and entitled to guard yourself you are, you did reject him. For me, all my feelings for that person might not vanish in an instant but the process of detachment begins immediately and it may do for him as well.All he had was that you might be interested in him and might want something one day, but he's not obliged to sit on a shelf and wait. If you know he's pursuing someone else and you send pictures and continue to flirt anyway, it's hard to argue that he's playing games with you. He could just as easily think you're playing games with him. You told him how you felt and he was candid with you. As hard as it is to watch someone you want slip away, you have to let it happen if you don't want to end up more hurt in the long run. You don't want him to think you're prepared to be anyone's play thing, right? So keep it as friends or part ways.
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