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writes:When you move in with your man, isn't it bad sexual karma if you don't buy a new set of sheets, new pillow cases, new comforter for the bed you are planning to share -- especially if the old sheets, old comforter and pillowcases were shared by the woman he was involved with before you?...The one he hasn't quite gotten over?....I don't know correct me if I'm wrong, but I say out with the old, in with the new. The less reminders, the better! Please tell me what you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): the sheets are not the problem. i am guessing you are going into this with eyes wide open and knoow what is in store for you. he is not over his ex , so you are hoping that with time he will be. in the meanwhile yo just play along and act like the sheets are biggest threat in yor relationship.you don't reveal your age, so don't know how mature you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): ewww. oh god, ok at that point I would have to resort to bleaching the whole house... I am so sorry you had to veiw that and you are a strong woman cause I am not sure I could take that.
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): Are you trying to destroy yourself? Oh, god. I would never ever want to view videos of my man and his ex.. no wonder you hate those sheets. Lol.
You may want to keep your eyes shut for a while and stop stepping in a direct path to self pain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I probably wouldn't throw them out at all, I just don't want them on the bed...You see, when I was cleaning closets recently I stumbled onto a box of videos they filmed together and it seems like there is one particular set of sheets that seem to be in all the videos, so I went out and bought a new set, and quietly shoved the old ones to the back of the closet. Is that weird?....Everytime I looked at the old sheets, I pictured them on them. It bugged me quite a bit, though I never said anything to him. And yes, I did move in knowing full well he wasn't over her, because he seems like he wants to. I just know the break up was hard for him and he's left everytning in the house exactly the way it was when she walked out. I know I have my work cut out for me, so this is the first step. I guess I'm superstitious. I feel it'll help him move on if there aren't so many constant reminders. Thanks so much for your answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): Are you really moving in with a man who hasn't quite gotten over his ex?
I know where you're coming from and I can see how that would bother you, but at the same time, I know I wouldn't be able to spend that much money (that stuff is expensive) just because I was in a new relationship. To you, you may see it and be reminded of his ex, but when he sees it, he could very well see nothing but a place to sleep. I don't think it's much to fuss over. Maybe if you offer to help pay for it, he'll be more inclined. Or maybe i'm just super poor.
~Sy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): I am not sure that I would move in with a man who is not quite over his old lover. sheets or no sheets. I do understand where you are going with that though, You don't want reminders of any other woman and that makes scense but maybe to him it means letting go of the past, and maybe thats something only he can do. Also, he may not even care about the sheets. Not to many men are attached to them.. they just see you throwing money out the window... maybe you could just buy some new ones and put those away... and throw them out when he's ready.
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reader, Perspicacious  +, writes (11 August 2009):
They are just objects at the end of the day, but if they make you feel uncomfortable then get them changed!
However, a bigger question is why move in with someone who hasn't got over their ex? That sounds like a recipe for disaster to me!
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