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writes:Okay so I'm having serious trust issues with my boyfriend. It kills me that I cant trust him so I've been going to any lengths to prove to myself that I can trust him. He promises me that he doesn't talk to anybody else on msn tells me I'm all he needs same with tagged which is where we first met. So one day a few weeks ago we were in his and he was helping his dad out cleaning the back garden, I went up to his room to ring my mam and his ipod was there, he has a tagged app on it where he is already signed in and I let curiosity get the better of me and I had to look there I seen in the private mail section that he had been talking to multiple girls one of them a girl questioned him because he had a girlfriend and his reply was so ya cant prove it shell never find out. I know I went looking for it but morely I wanted proof that I could trust him but I was wrong. So I confronted him later that day and we talked about it and he just kept saying Ill never do it again that he loves me so then he deleted his account. He knew from this day that I did not trust him and that he had to earn it back. He begged me not to break up with him so I said that I cant go through this again and that if he ever did anything like this again that I just might have to. Again my head was completely wrecked with my trust issues and badly wanted to prove to myself that I could trust him because I knew anything he said or did wasnt going to prove it so me to put my mind at ease I made a fake msn and added him off of it when he accepted I was just about to start a conversation when he text first! saying hey. The picture I used had two girls in it and he was very persistent to find out which one I was pretending to be then I started talking about his girlfriend (me) because his tagged has an anniversaire note to me from when we went 14 months. and he said just wanted to have a normal conversation with me whilest at the same time he was texting me and he had only dropped me home a half an hour before hand we had spent the hole day together. then he went offline after I made him feel guilty for chatting up me when he has a gf. I then text him saying that some girl had added me on msn and left me a message saying that she was talking to you earlier on on msn and she thought shed tell me because she felt sorry for me. he then said really thats weird I wasnt even on msn tonight and he was cos all i had to say was that yeah I was online earlier and so were you! trying to give me every excuse in the book swearing to god that he didnt do a thing that he didnt talk to anybody when I finally broke down and told him the truth that it was me on the other end of that conversation and again he still sat there telling me that he didnt talk to anybody! then eventually he admitted it only because he thought I was going to break up with him. I really dont know what to do with him at all, I cant break up with him I love Him too much and weve been together too long to break up now over this but he promised the last time that he wouldnt do this to me again and he did and now he has again. I am going up to him today to talk. and I suppose there is no real question here but I just dont know what to do so any suggestions would help me out a lot. Thank You.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (17 April 2011):
Get a grip and take control by dumping him.He is making a total fool out of you and you're letting him do so.The fact you've let it go on this long is bad enough - and yes you can break up with him as 14 months in not a long time.Unless you do something about it, he is going to continue walking all over you, break promises and probably cheat on you (if he hasn't done so already).You're still young and you can get over this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2011): There's nothing you can do but live in misery, in a relationship with a guy you can't trust. That's it really, you're not going to break up with him so just sit back and watch as he betrays you over and over again and tries to get with other women.Have a nice life OP, I hope you see sense sooner rather than later before he completely destroys your faith in humanity. Love is totally worth all this pain and heartache isn't it? It's a great reason to allow yourself to get used and walked all over.
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