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female
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anonymous
writes:I've been dating this guy for about six weeks. We get on really well,I love his company and mentally we really connect. However, in these six weeks he hasn't made any moves on me...at all! Apart from a quick kiss on the lips there hasn't been any physical contact.Last night I was at his house and we were cuddling on the sofa whilst watching a dvd. When the film finished I thought it would be the ideal time to move things on but he just wanted to watch another film!I felt hurt and disappointed so I left abruptly. This morning I have sent him a text asking to meet up to talk about this. He hasn't replied to me.I know he was unhappy that I got up and walked out and I really would like the opportunity to ask him in person why he hasn't made any moves on me and to clear the air but if he won't respond to my texts what should I do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advice. It looks like it is a case of not being over the ex even though they have been divorced two years. Why bother dating at all if you're not ready. So disappointing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2011): If he didnt want to make a move, i doubt he will want to discuss it either. He should have made it clear from the start if he only wanted a friendship. I dated a guy who didnt seem very interested in being intimate either. We spent weeks holding hands. At first i thought it was sweet. But as time went on i became rather offended! I later found out he had still been in love with his ex wife and was finding it very difficult to emotionally move on. He felt that sex with someone else would be cheating! He had been apart from his ex for a year the time. If you want a fixer upper, try talking to this person but if you are looking for someone who really desires you it might be wiser to keep this one in the friend zone and seek a proper partner elsewhere..
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2011): ive had this problem myself an i think its best to clear the air, there's nothing worse than thinking it over and over and getting worked up about it. ask to meet up and you make the move. if he doesnt respond theres nothing more you can do, cut your losses and move on
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2011): You really couldn't have found a better way to approach this? The most dreaded words a man could hear is "lets talk" and you just seal the nail in the coffin when it's about your dissatisfaction with him sexually. Skip the talk and pretend you never wrote that. Ask him over for dinner and have a couple of glasses of wine and then make a move on him. If he doesn't respond normally then there is something wrong with HIM, not YOU, and I'd consider moving on and just keeping him as a friend.
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (17 April 2011):
 This guy has intimacy issues, are you sure you want to be his shrink? Best of luck with that. He should have sought help for himself before entering into ANY RS. This is not about you, you're being quite normal given the 6 weeks. Cripes teenagers even know this!! He hasn't replied to you out of embarrassment. Again not about you. You know what totally freaks me out about women THESE days.They'll put up with so much BS and spend way too much time invested in BS.Guys won't even date a girl if they have the wrong colour hair or are to tall by 1 inch. And women have just got to STOP and read the damned SIGNSWhat the hell has happened to AWARENESS.
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