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female
age
41-50,
*lindsided82
writes:I'm the other woman. I know and heard every comment known to man about this. I am not one to just do something like this. It all started in high school. We both was seeing other people and we started out as friends and then it went from there. We would talk and meet and occasionally it got physical but we only had sex once in 4 years and at that time I was not dating my husband. I got married and then pregnant and me and "Z" lost touch. We would occasionally email but the it seemed as the other wouldn't respond until this year. I had been having dreams about him and just wanted to make sure he was okay. So I emailed him and we emailed back and forth for a month and then decided to chat on IM. We did that almost everyday for a while and then he went on a trip and we started texting. I screwed up on drunken night and said those 3 little words. Yes I know I am married and have a child. Well we finally decided to meet and it went from there. We were talking daily and meeting at least once a week for 30 minutes to an hour. Then we had the long dreaded talk about our past and he told me everything he had always wanted to. He loved me and always did and always will. Well this went on and the other day he didn't get on messenger and didn't text or anything. His girlfriend and him were fighting and he had to decided to make things work or to let it go. I knew if he made things work we would have to end. And you guessed it! He ended things the other day. He wants to still be friends but us just not talk as much or meet. So he tells me he will always love me. Well here is my question Can he still be friends with me and know I'm on messenger and not contact me? Or will he give in? How can he say he loves me but not want to continue it? Will he give in? Help!!!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (18 November 2008):
 Wow what perfect opportunity to turn your life around and start behaving like a woman with honor and integrity. Yippeee now you can focus on your family! Hurray, now you can be a class act and be a role model for your child!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): hi,
this guy is using u... he doesn love u.. it just seems to be a strong attraction, if it was anything of sorts you wouln have been married to someone whom u never even knew then.. sojust forget it..and stop wishing him back and take care of your family and get yourself a life..
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): hi,
this guy is using u... he doesn love u.. it just seems to be a strong attraction, if it was anything of sorts you wouln have been married to someone whom u never even knew then.. sojust forget it..and stop wishing him back and take care of your family and get yourself a life..
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reader, straight to the truth  +, writes (17 November 2008):
when you say meeting once a week for 30 min to an hour what were you meeting for???firstly i can understand him not seeing you and instead he is making things work with his girlfriend. How would you feel if you loved your husband and you knew every night he was talking to a girl he once had sexual relations with and meeting her at least once a week for 30 min to an hour. I am sure you would be devastated and would want it to stop. this is not normal behavior. Its ok for men to have female friends but they should not build a bond like that with them.yes there can be an I love you when they dont want to be with you. there are lots of feelings with I love you.Its a common feeling when breaking up a relationship when you love them but you dont like them anymore. this sounds more like he loves you as a friend and be he in love with his partner and doesn't want to risk that for you.he is trying to put some space between you which is understandable. he hasn't said he doesn't want to talk to you anymore. also you are married and you have a child, your problem is a little unclear as to wether or not you wanted this friendship to be more than that or not but judging by the tone in the problem i am guessing you wanted more.I would suggest looking at what is wrong in your own relationship and trying to build that bond with your husband. you must of loved him too to be married and have a child with him
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