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writes:hi,I've been split up with my bf for 3 months now and it seems to be gettin harder. I love him so much and miss him more everyday no matter what i do i can't seem to move on . He told me that we needed to sort our heads out and he would love things to be different but yet he has made no contact with me im trying not to contact him as to give him space. I just can't understand how he can say he loves me and im his soulmate yet leave me. Any advice?
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reader, blazee  +, writes (19 October 2007):
 heya=] um answering your question,dont think to badly of this guy. more detail into the problem would help produce a more acurate answer but basiclly there are two solutions to this.one:he does care for you, just not in the way that he may have told you. mabye not in the way that he loves you, but he does probably as a friendtwo:he feels for you a lot, he just feels uncomftable around you, thinking he is not good enough. and has some problems in his life right now wich he needs to figure out.i would say, if you really want to get over this, and i promise, weather it is with, or without him. you will get over this. but the only way you can do this, is if you make contact with him. you make the first move, open up some dialouge, then take it from there. be caring, be understanding. and remember, if he is generally a nice guy, never hit you, never said anything to hurt you. you had people on here saying he never loved you, but if he never done anything to hurt you. chanches are he had feelings for you. if he didnt have any feelings for you...he wouldnt have gone out with you in the first place.remember dagood luck yh;)xx
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reader, ladysuzanna  +, writes (19 October 2007):
 i think he answer your question since he has not bother to contact you by now he may have someone else or he rather hung out with his friends stop waiting and start looking your heart will mend and you will give that love to someone else instead of sitting around and be hurt over someone who does not care good luck
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (19 October 2007):
 Dear Anon
I have heard this type of story in my life hundreds of time,when people start a sentence with the following phrases,' i need some space,' 'i need to clear my head', 'we need time apart', 'i need thinking space', 'i want to be on my own for a short time', 'we need to take a break', i am sorry to say they are all a cowards way out of a relationship,unless some one has passed away in their family, which then does change things, people who say this type of thing do not love or care for you at all, they are just a load of heartless, selfish people who have a wife and kids at home, and use other people unfairly as a play thing, come on girl wake up, get yourself out and about, date people you at least have something in common with, dont wait about for this sorry looser to come back he may not, and if he does tell him were to go, dont be used by these people they are after one thing then there gone, your worth more that this , you need some one who cares and loves you for you, you deserve it being the wonderful person you are,and the bonus is because you are young, and can start a new life with some one who deserves you, some once said to me, i like this one best of all, 'i need to find myself' what a load of rubbish, ha ha.go on get out there smell the roses.
good luck
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